That’s nice. But with the current legal environment I could never in good conscience advise my son to get married.
Absolutely agree. I have 2 college age sons and, should the time come, I will strongly advise some kind of prenup or the like, and we are not a wealthy family by any stretch of the imagination.
I was shocked to learn that under no-fault divorce laws in my state, a spouse who separates, but is still legally married, can nonetheless sleep around as much as they want. It is not considered “adultery” if they have separated. Yet someone will still be on the hook for support and alimony when it becomes final.
I’m not sure that separation from God due to a life of fornication is an improvement.
Even to the point of making it a specialty
Males who divorce are learning leftist judges do not for the most part award full custody (nor even 50-50) to the male part of the divorce. It’s full child custody payments (times the # of children) for the majority of their life to come, no matter how vigorously they or their attorneys fight for at least 50% custody. The court system is skewed toward the female no matter her competence or ability to raise the child (or children).
I think my divorce from their mother poisoned my two sons’ view of marriage. They knew that I had been a good husband and father, did not want it, and did not cause it. They know I had no choice. Can’t help but have a little bitterness about it because I put my heart and soul into my wife and children. It has been 15 years since the divorce and it is in the past. But my view of marriage is much more positive than theirs, though I have not yet re-married . . . but probably will.
They have a pretty dim view of women their age and believe our culture has made them untrustworthy and generally unlovable. My heart aches for their dilemma.
One of the pieces of advice I have have given to my is to be careful where he lays his seed.