I am proud to be the parent of two young people, both of whom graduated college, both gainfully employed and self-supporting. They were raised with minimal input or support from their father. My influence as their mother no doubt had an impact on their service and success. I “serve” by being an exemplary citizen, paying my own way and taxes, and not asking for anything from you or others.
I do not “rate my patriotism” based on the service of others. And if you do not think being the parent of deployed military is worthy of being called “service” or “patriotic”, then maybe you will get to experience it yourself someday, and see what it is like.
You were the one that called my patriotism in question by insinuating that I had not served. Sorry is me calling yours into question for lack of service upsets you.