You're a great parent. Not all parents push back at school admins, but they should because of how the school admins underperform their duties. Our 4-year-old here is in pre-school, and it's easy for her because she knows the basics. Our other grandchildren in another state are also in pre-school but with similar skills in reading and writing. We prepped our children while they were toddlers, and they excelled in school and college, succeeding in their jobs, and are now parents of small children.
It's a shame that those Detroit kids are failures, but what the heck were they doing in school those 12 years (or more)? No need to answer, we know why they frittered away opportunity. They were told to take from others, blame others, and depend on others.
The failing the kids is done intentionally to dumb down society and control them . That’s why I said now they kids have to be in AP classes to learn otherwise they are not really going to learn much (at least in the schools my daughter went to)
And now you have to fight even harder.
Sad thing is I was strict with , gave up a lot to make sure she was well taken care of education wise and she thinks I am a terrible parent (in rebellion right now )