Life or death, eh? And when the kid ultimately kills herself, as she is very likely to do, it will no doubt be blamed entirely on the parents for resisting the efforts of the benign state to chop her up and pretend she is something she can never be.
I’d bet she’ll do herself in if she has the operation......her problem isn’t how she sees her identity sexually. It’s her own struggle with issues much deeper than that. Surgery does not change ‘the mind’.