Did you REALLY just say that? You do know that's called rape at worst, and domestic violence at mildest?
Guys, your comments about the wifey putting on 25 lbs, cutting her hair, and becoming cool towards you just f'n break my heart. How's about you go look in the mirror, the one that shows your pot belly and bald head.
if you all base your marriage on the physical aspects then you are shallow indeed.
I have no comment on this guy and this girl, or the wife. I don't know enough of their circumstances to feel qualified to judge. I was married for 38 years, so I feel qualified to comment on that.
It breaks your heart for people to have expectations? There is no moral superiority in settling for a cave troll and telling yourself that you look past the physical and fall in love with the mind. If someone doesn't have enough self-respect to look their best under their given circumstances, then we have a problem.
When I look in the mirror I see a guy who gets up at 4am to fit weightlifting and running into the day. We all can only work with what we got -- my brothers are all taller and better looking than I am. Looking at my family history, I'll probably go bald -- I can't control it so I'm not going to beat myself up over it. I'm no supermodel but I take care of myself and try to look my best, and if I'm shallow for expecting a potential spouse to do the same, sue me. Putting on a crapload of weight and opting for a butch haircut are controllable factors.