Agreed many women have looked to the government to act as their “husband.” I don’t disagree that our familes and society are completely broken. My problem with many on this site is that young women are the sole problem. They are part of the problem, but young men are also the problem. Denying women the right to vote and be equal is not the answer. The asinine comments on this site about denying women the right to vote is contributing to young women refusing to accept conservative values. And comments like this “I regularly counsel young white men to try and date East Asian and lighter skinned Latin women. Their cultures still are pretty strongly family oriented and young American women simply are not.” are shocking. You men really don’t even begin to understand why middle class white women have a problem with you. Maybe I should right a book on this, although I doubt it would wake any of you up to what the real problem is.
Pity these few nutcases, hurling insults is the their only talent.
Their type of unhinged rhetoric drives voters to left, and then they blame election losses on voter fraud!
Young men definitely share the blame in our current dysfunction but in the end there can be no mistaking the outcomes: They feel they risk a lot more, so they won’t engage/marry/breed. No matter what they bring to the table, most young women are unable to convince a mate to enter into the legal contract of marriage or the obligations of breeding.
Once marriage became “until I meet someone better do we part”, it was doomed. A few still marry out of tradition or for religious reasons, but otherwise young people of both genders know marriage isn’t in the cards - and it very obviously rankles one gender more than the other. Young women know they will be worked (and taxed) like men for decades, often to provide goods and services for foreign offspring - and they strongly resent it.
The flight of young skilled American workers from the NYC metro area is couched in terms of “high cost of living”, but the media carefully avoids pointing out that what is driving these (often childless, unmarried) workers out of NY and NJ is the fact that the high cost of living is due to the fact that 2/3 of the sky-high property taxes are paid to the local schools - so they know they are subsidizing imported children while having none of their own.
When I was young college educated women my age simply hated the idea of marriage and family. At the base these young women knew what their families had been and the level of commitment to family and one man to them meant the end of the exciting single life that imagined and felt they were entitled to. There was simply no exciting fun in subordinating oneself to pregnancy, small humans, one guy and a house in the burbs.
Exciting was a code for lots of uncommitted sex seeking ‘mean exciting men’ who give girls that wonderful tingle of just a bit of danger while off on a weekend fling featuring blowing dope, expensive dining and hotels and lots of imaginative heavy duty sexual intercourse. Also exciting meant saving for a foreign fling each summer, back then it was Greek Isles, India, Dalmacia or Baja every year where there was plenty of pot and easy sex in a striking foreign venue.
This was the original me, me, me culture that is still regnant. Many young men gradually withdrew from the loathsome culture and looked for lower middle class girls , particularly those who had children from a first mairrage. The US has damaged its fundamental institutions by embracing the bitch goddess of exciting singleness. There is a really good book that tells this story in bruising detail, ‘Loose Change’. The authoress is upper middle class left liberal but her narrative is unsparing. It was published in 1977 and their plenty of copies around at Abebooks etc. A longer (too long) literary treatment of part of the 60’s poison is Mitchner’s ‘The Drifters’. The characters in it are the next generation after ‘Loose Change’ and they are even moor unmoored, uncentered and eventually profoundly alienated.
Today we reap the rewards of the 60’s poison with single parenthood (probably the single most significant sociological trend of the 21st century), infantilized or feminized and profoundly weak men , mysogynyistic women and a profoundly anti-family public school and welfare bureaucracy. These are a lot more significant than the way some of the minority of traditional values men express their alienation for first liberated and now woke womanhood. How many of your female peers embrace the toxic me,me,me-exciting singlehood-liberated from normative cultural values-and generalized mysogyny towards normative men?
OK, I’ll bite . . .
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