The Catholic Church is not now, nor has it ever been a democracy. Thankfully, the Church does not compromise her long standing doctrines and traditions just because a vocal minority of theologically ignorant americans, want it to.
BTW if your "feelings" are that strong then go join the protestants. Their diminishing ranks could use it.
The hierarchy enjoys the respect of the laity only insofar as it deserves it.
If the Vatican bureaucrats, in tandem with the American bishops, don't address the rapidly diminishing reputation of the priesthood, you can expect lay people to vote with their pocketbooks.
"Theologically ignorant" people have lots of power when they control the purse strings.
Please provide the statistics which show "diminishing ranks" of protestant denominations. Not just large so called "mainline denominations" but all demoninations.