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College Girls: Unpaid Whores
cornellreview ^ | 3/4/2002 | Joseph J. Sabia

Posted on 03/19/2002 7:13:02 AM PST by TLBSHOW

College Girls: Unpaid Whores

If you were to visit a women’s studies department at an elite university, you would encounter a wide variety of courses on the sexual liberation of women. The main thrust of these courses is that for too long, various social institutions have prevented women from exploring their sexual desires. Now, thanks to the heroism of such women as Gloria Steinem, Margaret Sanger, and Bella Abzug, women have been partially freed from the oppressive forces of male patriarchy. In other words, young women are encouraged to be whores.

The chant of Gen. Y college babes might as well be “We’re here, we’re whores, get used to it!” No, most girls are not actually uttering those words, but the slutty sentiments are implicit in the standard female college behavior – wearing tight shirts and pants, getting publicly drunk, hanging on every guy around, and engaging in random sex.

The concept of “behaving like a lady” is an anachronism. If a college girl acts like a lady, she is considered boring, prudish, and old-fashioned. Why is this happening? Five important explanations come to mind.

(1) Feminist thought has taught young women that equality is achieved by acting like promiscuous sluts.

In Who Stole Feminism? Christina Hoff Summers writes extensively about how the women’s rights movement was hijacked by gender feminists, who supplanted equity feminists. While equity feminists were concerned with such mainstream issues as equal pay for equal work, gender feminists were obsessed with proving that (a) there are no biological differences between men and women and (b) men are evil. When the gender feminists seized control of the movement, they encouraged women to behave just as immorally as many men. This was seen as a step toward gender equity.

But why is it liberating for a college-age woman to jump into bed with a man that is not her husband? Why is it freeing to become intoxicated and to hook-up with anonymous frat guys? Why is it an expression of equal rights to give into men’s animalistic instincts?

Presumably, women could exercise their true power to tame men by using celibacy (and other ladylike behavior) to induce men into monogamous stable relationships and eventually into marriage. Along the way to healthy relationships, women could also gain some self-respect.

(2) Young women have turned away from God.

As women have strayed from the church, they have replaced what is holy with what is temporally pleasing. For Catholics, the model woman is Mary, the virgin Mother of God. She is beloved by the faithful for her unflappable devotion to and trust in God, her nurturing of the Son of Man, and her deep love for all humanity.

Today’s college girl looks to Ally McBeal, the trollops of Sex in the City, and the floozies on Friends to set their moral compasses.

The sad truth is that college girls are so desperate to find love that they are willing to degrade themselves to get it. But true love can only be understood in the context of the Word of God. Any other notion of “love” is secular and, by definition, limited and finite.

(3) The costs of sex have rapidly declined.

The explosion in availability of the birth control pill fueled the so-called sexual revolution of the ‘60s, the consequences of which we still see today. With the ability to partially regulate the probability of pregnancy, women can choose to have sex more liberally. Expanded abortion-on-demand services have also permitted young women to engage in more sex because of the greater ease with which a major consequence of sex can be disposed. Abortion providers have recognized the prevalence of sex by college girls in their choice to locate close to our nation’s colleges and universities.

Perhaps just as important as the reduction in the economic costs of sex is the decline in the psychic costs of sex – specifically, the social stigma associated with nonmarital sex. In an earlier era, young women who chose to engage in sex were socially ostracized and their behavior denounced. Today, if a young woman engages in a one-night-stand (“random hook-up”) she is a liberated studette.

(4) Marriage has been devalued by young women and replaced not only by cohabitation but also by new, bizarre social arrangements such as “friends with benefits.”

Young women have traditionally looked to men for marriage and family formation. This is no longer true. College girls look at men not as marriage material, but as sex partners and roommates. Many college women live and sleep with their boyfriends. This is the norm.

Additionally, other sex-based relationships have become commonplace. In recent years, a new and disturbing arrangement known as “friends with benefits” has emerged. In this arrangement, men are not even forced to perform the normal duties of boyfriends, i.e. flowers, Valentine’s Day cards, rides to the abortion clinic, etc. Instead, girls consider these guys “just friends” whom they happen to screw every now and again. No strings, no attachments, no dinners. Just sex when they feel like it.

This type of arrangement is the next logical step in the direction that young women have drifted in the last few decades. These women have become unpaid whores. At least prostitutes made a buck off of their trade. These women just give it away.

The truth is that women actually lose power by becoming tramps. When they give away one of their main sources of bargaining power in a relationship – sex – men gain total power by achieving everything they want…free sex with no obligation.

(5) “You know exactly who’s to blame…the mother and the father.” – The Oompa Loompas in Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory

College girls are clearly responsible for their own behavior, but their parents have shaped their values. The verdict is in -- their parents have failed. Too many parents, particularly mothers, have eschewed their moral obligations to raise their daughters to be respectable ladies.

Instead, many moms want to be their daughters’ friends, talking late at night about boyfriends, parties, who’s hot, etc. Young women do not need more friends, they need mothers who will provide moral guidance. Unfortunately, these self-absorbed moms cannot deal with the fact that they are old and will never again see their early 20s. Thus, they attempt to live their sorority days all over again through their slutty daughters.

“Now Sabia,” you say, “you’ve been very hard on young women. But don’t young men deserve some blame? Aren’t you just a bitter, cranky, rapidly-aging misogynist?”

The answer to both questions is ‘yes.’

Young men are awful and they have gotten worse over the years. And let me be clear – young men are responsible for their own behavior.

But women have historically been the civilizing forces for men. That is biological. Moreover, several verses in the Scriptures refer to the important role that women have in the moral uplift of men.

It should surprise no one that sexual activity has historically been more frequent among gay men than among heterosexuals. This is because there is no civilizing female force in the gay community. Whenever men want to have sex, they just go ahead and do it. Neither of the partners has much of an incentive to refrain from sex since monogamous relationships and traditional familes are generally not the final goals of these partnerships. Recently, the behavior of young heterosexuals has begun to resemble that of gay men because young women are imitating men in their sexual promiscuity.

The result of young women’s abdication of responsibility has been significant moral decay on America’s college campuses. Can the moral high ground ever be reclaimed? Perhaps…one church pew at a time.


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To: TLBSHOW
"liberal lefty wh*res"

Where? WHERE!.

And such language! You must be really peeved that someone, somewhere, is actually enjoying sex.

Isn't it funny that the fundamentalist Muslims have basically the same outlook on sex as you?

61 posted on 03/19/2002 8:00:30 AM PST by Who is George Salt?
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To: TLBSHOW
Feminism has caused women to be promiscuous and men to reject their role as a provider. It's a viscious cycle and now it's difficult to tell which came first: the chicken or the egg. Men are unwilling to commit (because they can get sex easily and don't have the responsibility of "fatherhood") and, therefore, women continue promiscuity (because it's the only way they think they can attain love).
62 posted on 03/19/2002 8:02:23 AM PST by DallasDeb
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To: AUgrad
I'm sorry homeo!......I do think most married folks ...especially with children are happier than the perpetual Warren Beattys or Tallulah Bankheads of the world. Hell, most folks need to be loved and needed. It's a primal thing.

Women of any age should not squander sexual capital wantonly regardless of morality or religion.

63 posted on 03/19/2002 8:02:43 AM PST by wardaddy
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To: Who is George Salt?
Wow, you really are nuts. We aren't repressed, we just feel that sex is something God gave for the sanctity of marriage, that is why I am waiting (and guess what, I am not agonizing). We are not to live for the Flesh, as James said in his letter we are a mist and we quickly disappear, we should live for something greater than ourselves, not for pleasures of the flesh that will not be with us long. God Bless
64 posted on 03/19/2002 8:02:50 AM PST by StAthanasiustheGreat
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To: TLBSHOW
Isn't there some kind of grammar rule about never, never using the words "sexual desires" and "Bella Abzug" in the same paragraph.

Eeeewwwww.

65 posted on 03/19/2002 8:03:23 AM PST by Fzob
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To: wardaddy
You are correct: I have ZERO children. Which may be part of my point. If I had teenage daughters, I would probably be very concerned about their behavior. But would I do myself any good by lamenting some other guy's kid's behavior?

Moral standards have been stretching, bending, and sometimes breaking for decades, if not centuries. One could write an equally exasperated essay on those darned pot-smokers, drag racers, Ravers, or whatever specific deviation from the ideal you choose. And I agree that a massive relinquishing of social standards would have an impact on society. I just don't think that's happening.

I'm sure there are plenty of little chippies out there making lots of young men very happy. But I don't think they are the majority.

66 posted on 03/19/2002 8:03:48 AM PST by Mr. Bird
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To: TLBSHOW
As another example of slutty behavior, Michael Savage -- the talk radio host who is also a Berkeley Ph.D. in nutritional science -- on his show last night attributed the massive outbreak of conjunctivitis -- pink eye -- among the women students on the campuses of Dartmouth and Princeton in recent weeks to lesbian activity.

Sounds likely enough. The article I read on the outbreak in the NY Times a couple of days ago made no mention of any occurrences of the malady among men.

67 posted on 03/19/2002 8:03:49 AM PST by aristeides
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To: TLBSHOW
There may be something to this. We had an intern last year that was waiting to go to law school. She shared an apartment with 3 guys, one of whom, was her 'boyfriend'.

In a fit of spite with him, she decided to start having sex with all three of them. This was a no big deal thing to her. (I learned this when we all sat in one area with no cubes. There was no privacy on phone calls.)

She is 21, attractive and Daddy has big bucks, for what it's worth.

68 posted on 03/19/2002 8:03:52 AM PST by TC Rider
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To: NWU Army ROTC
Maybe I should have just said "Go away Satan's spawn!!"

Better??...

I am jesting of course but I am diametrically opposed to Salty's diatribes as a rule....that he should applaud increasing promiscuity and irresponsibility of college coeds doesn't suprise me.

69 posted on 03/19/2002 8:05:55 AM PST by wardaddy
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To: dead
LOL!!!
70 posted on 03/19/2002 8:06:21 AM PST by Incorrigible
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To: wardaddy
I understand, tell you the truth, I rarely actually post replies or post articles, but this tends to be one topic I get a little engaged in. But I had never seen his replies before, your comment was quite humorous. God Bless
71 posted on 03/19/2002 8:07:51 AM PST by StAthanasiustheGreat
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To: tpaine
How so? Have you ever been a promiscuous female?
72 posted on 03/19/2002 8:07:57 AM PST by stands2reason
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To: dead

73 posted on 03/19/2002 8:09:06 AM PST by codebreaker
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To: wardaddy
I'm sorry homeo!......I do think most married folks ...especially with children are happier than the perpetual Warren Beattys or Tallulah Bankheads of the world. Hell, most folks need to be loved and needed. It's a primal thing.

I wasn't implying that married people aren't happier. I just meant that someone needs to tell my wife that married people have sex more often. I don't think she got the memo.

74 posted on 03/19/2002 8:09:16 AM PST by AUgrad
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To: wardaddy
and what does "homeo" mean?
75 posted on 03/19/2002 8:10:07 AM PST by AUgrad
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To: all
Here's a link to the NY Times article on the conjunctivitis outbreak: Pinkeye Cases Baffle 2 Ivy League Colleges.
76 posted on 03/19/2002 8:10:39 AM PST by aristeides
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To: Mr. Bird
Having children does change one's perception.

I was a hedonist in my youth ...actually up to around 30 or so...but I never treated women shamelessly...even if they were drunk or drugged and compromised ...and I was responsible.

I just don't think single women emulating pornstars is such a good idea for them or society. Unless a woman is dogfood ugly, her sex is her real power...along with her brain of course...grovel..grovel.

regards

77 posted on 03/19/2002 8:10:49 AM PST by wardaddy
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To: TLBSHOW
Great article, and TOTALLY TRUE.

When something as sacred as sex becomes totally meaningless, watch out for your civilization, because it's about to come crashing down. Thanks, liberals.

78 posted on 03/19/2002 8:11:28 AM PST by Jonathon Spectre
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To: codebreaker
Now my other eye is tearing up!

I need a tissue...

79 posted on 03/19/2002 8:11:58 AM PST by dead
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