[mafree]

she joined a West African rites of passage society.

Does that mean her clitoris has been removed and her vulva sewn closed?

Most African cultures don't do this- you're stereotyping.

[LibKill]

Ignore the idiots. Marry as you will, white, black, otherwise.

Marry whom you wish to marry.

But, remember the old saying; "Marry in haste, repent at leisure".