Posted on 07/29/2002 5:04:25 AM PDT by mlmr
Dear Mrs. Web,
I am in a happy relationship with a kind, supportive, positive and mature man. We are in our late 20's. We will probably become engaged at Christmas. That would mean we will have only dated for 10-11 months before our engagement. Is it too soon?
We are both very comfortable with the idea of marrying each other, but a friend said we should date for at least 2 years or we won't have enough time to really get to know each other. Neither of us have ever been in a serious relationship, so we really don't know if we're rushing into things.
I think between 18 months and 2 years is a good span of time between the first meeting and the wedding day. Make sure you know each other and are familiar and comfortable with each other’s families and friends.
Remember to read my Issues to Explore with Your Beloved at my website.
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Dear Mrs. Web,
What is statutory rape?
Statutory Rape is when a consenting adult has sex with a consenting minor.
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Dear Mrs. Web,
I am a 32 year old female, who is experiencing PMS. I am trying to find ways to help me deal with the major mood swings. During these times, I become very emotional (crying and needy), and I feel like everything I do is a waste of my time. I also become very self-critical and very irritable.
My moods have had a very negative impact on my relationships. I want to find ways to help me through PMS and even avoid it, if possible. I want to know what other women do to get through the week. I do exercise, take my vitamins, and calcium supplements, but this still has not helped. I just don't know what else to do other then to hibernate for almost 2 weeks out of every month.
Dear Mrs. Web, of course, has never had a moody moment in her life. She is always sweet and pleasant, often fun to be with, and forever understanding. Ah! The comforts of the cyber-space Personal Advice Columnist!
Some women have found relief on low doses of hormone therapy. Sometimes low doses of anti-depressants help. Some women I know have used herbal, vitamins or homeopathic treatments with results. Others swear by diet therapy.
In your shoes, I would begin by talking to a gynecologist with a specialty in PMS. Ask around and find one with good recommendations.
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Dear Mrs. Web,
Sometimes feel like I can actually talk to God. When I do the wind blows and I try real hard to listen but I can't hear anything. Do you think that if I want to talk to Him should I go somewhere or do something specific like pray or do a séance or something? What should I do? Please help me out.
Many people talk to God. It is called prayer. They pour their hearts and thoughts out to God and find it immensely helpful. They find that faith and trust in God gives them a rock to stand on when things get tough.
In Dear Mrs. Web's opinion, God rarely speaks to us directly, but instead uses His hands on earth - other people - to open and close the doors to our future and show us His will for our lives.
Dear Mrs Web learned long ago not to mess with the occult.
The best thing that you could do for yourself since you feel God’s tugging, (or else you would not have written this letter) is find a passionate and praying church. Men and women come to churches all the time needing someone to help them learn how to pray. Find a church you like and ask for help. There will be retreats, and all sorts of activities to help you pray and discern God’s words for you.
It really works. I was humbled and amazed.
Best,
Dear Mrs Web
As to the woman who wants to wed a guy she barely knows, get real! Don't do it until you've known him about 3 years and be sure to check him out thoroughly. Except, of course, if you're Miss PMS above. Maybe he WON'T want to marry you!
Prayer? Can't hurt, maybe will even help.
Excercise sounds like a great idea!
I have always found that time is not the most important issue, but instead, depth of knowledge of the other, and of course, a willingness to look at the beloved's glaring character flaws - and if needed, cut bait!
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