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I wish there were a fair system. Sounds like €50 would be a bargan, if he'd just stay away from them for that! Some people really shouldn't reproduce.

The system in the US is too far the other way, IMHO. No system will always be fair to everyone, but a better balance needs to be struck.

My heart goes out to your friend.

My ex was put on a public Dead Beat Dad's list. The guy was a jerk but he did pay and the list came out when my sons were in their twenties. He was led to believe (by the child support agency) that I filed against him and was raging when he called me. I had no idea that was happening to him so told him I would do what I could to help. I called the bureau of child support and told them my ex didn't owe me any money, that the paperwork was finalized years before. They demand that I show proof. I explained that I didn't have the paperwork, that he owed me no money, and I would not accept a dime. I was then told to my amazement that they would demand the money, give me mine to give back to him if I chose. I told them @#!%$ so they finally told me to get a notorized signature saying he owed me no money. I did so and took it personally to the agency who said they would use my statement in court. I went off on them again and used the above language and demanded I be informed of the court date, that I wanted to tell the judge what really was going on. About a month later I received a document from the court stating, Jane Doe vs JohnDoe.......Case dismissed because of plaintiff's refusal to testify. Plaintiff says she won't accept John Doe's support payment. How corrupt can they get?? I turned all the information to an attorney who is keeping tabs on cases against men in Ohio. My ex realizes I had nothing to do with the frivolous suit and waste of money on behalf of Ohio citizens. I hope the attorneys who are documenting harassment against men and women who pay child support sock it to the government on their behalf.