The solution is the realization that in building a relationship with someone else, there's an "us" in addition to a "me" and a "you." The "us" is a hybrid of both partners, not an excuse to cast the other person in the mold of the first person's desires.
The fruit of such an approach is that it frees both partners to honor and respect each other for who they are. Such an attitude is the foundation of a love that lasts.
Excellent and thank you. I couldn't agree more!
I also believe that foundation was intended in the original patriarchal system.
At one time I was putting together a weekend seminar called "Foundations for Living, Foundations for Life." I had lots of support from women, but I wonder how many men would have come.