We hear you loud and clear.
We're trying, we're trying, believe me!
I have an Army issue .38 Enfield and a .455 Webley still chambered for its original caliber (a lot of them over here have been modified to take .45 ACP with half moon clips).
Have you considered the Webley? Although you would have to reload for it, think of the advantages . . . huge cloud of flame and smoke intimidates the opposition, enormous lead pill albeit travelling about the speed of a fossilized snail with lumbago, and if you empty the cylinder you simply smite the opponent over the head with the empty gun and knock him unconscious . . . (g) Actually, I love my Webley, people laugh when I sit down to the piano but it's a surprisingly accurate revolver and absolutely no recoil (because it weighs a ton. You'd have to carry a brick in your other pocket so you wouldn't tip over . . . )
Did you ever get a chance to fire those fine old Enfields? They have quite a following in the U.S. I started the reloading hobby with .303 British and a well-used 1941 Lee Enfield No. 4, MK I.
doing what I can...
As you may have noticed, it's possible to rent a gun by the hour to shoot at indoor commercial pistol ranges. Look 'em up in the Yellow Pages. Since you've some experience with the 1911 and revolvers, you might start there. See what else they've in the rental case, and try them, too. I played that game for several months before finding "true love" with the XXXXXXXX pistol. That was the one that felt like it was designed to fit my hand. And I can shoot it quickly and accurately. With any luck at all, you'll have a similar experience. It might even be your old buddy the 1911. It wasn't for me, though.