[LuLuLuLu]

You make very valid points, but the article very closely describes my husband of 5 months. He's 49 and I'm 48; we lived together a number of years before making it legal, and I've got to say that he isn't the man I met.

[RightOnline]

I appreciate your comments......and I'm sorry to hear that. To what do you attribute such a change? Not to......umm............well, you obviously love the guy enough to have married him and quite recently, at that. Do you think it's a matter of such therapy, or.........? Just curious here, not trying to be nosey. I've heard other women say the same thing many times and have always wondered.......

[riri]

and I've got to say that he isn't the man I met

Wellllp...I married a Ralph Cramden, Archie Bunker, Fred Flintstone sorta guy. Man, I am hoping he couldn't get grumpier, my sister always told me he'd mellow with age!

[Lazamataz]

You make very valid points, but the article very closely describes my husband of 5 months. He's 49 and I'm 48; we lived together a number of years before making it legal, and I've got to say that he isn't the man I met.

Please don't take offense, but "You aren't the man I married/met" always appears to me to be the biggest cop-out in the planet. You marry that man, but you discover he has faults (tragic or otherwise), and/or he changes. You must want to WORK on the marriage, which it sounds like you are willing to do.