[ohioWfan]

I Kissed Dating Goodbye written by Joshua Harris. This is a great book for young adults interested in learning how to pull back from dating.

This IS a good book, and dating for teens these days is a BAD idea.

It's artificial in the first place, and doesn't help you "know what you are looking for in a spouse." Being friends in groups with both sexes is far better for that.

And more important, this sex-charged society is dangerous for teens. They need all the help they can get to avoid situations where their morals might too easily be compromised.

I don't know the author's intent, but the bottom line is correct.

[McLynnan]

My daughter and I have both read "I kissed Dating Goodbye" and it helped. She has a boyfriend, but they do things with other friends in a group -- most of their activities are related to the church youth group. They both made an abstinence pledge in front of their parents and congregations before they met each other. Her young man is a terrific person raised by strong Christian parents and we communicate regularly with each other and with our teens about God's plan for them. They spend most of their time together either with a group or in one of our homes with parental supervision. I don't totally agree that all dating is bad -- at some point you have to gradually let go and trust that your parenting and their common sense will guide them.

[Mudbug]

I Kissed Dating Goodbye written by Joshua Harris. This is a great book for young adults interested in learning how to pull back from dating.

We also gave this book to our daughter a few years ago and I agree it's a very good book for teenagers. My daughter and her friends tend to do things as a group, and very few of the girls have paired off with boyfriends.

[half_nelson]

I am a 21 year old female, going to be a senior in college in the fall. I don't understand why dating is so harmful. My parents have been very present in the decisions that I have made about men. They have questioned me, talked with me and been active in my decision making. I dated through high school, not solidly, but I dated and I continue to date. I have met some boys, some men and some friends. I have also had a good time. I don't understand what harm has been inflicted on me. I think that as long as parents are there to support their children and and help their children and talk to them up front rather than avoiding the issue that the children will learn about respect and healthy relationships. Maybe I am wrong but that's the way I see it.

[Rytwyng]

Being friends in groups with both sexes is far better for that.

Nonsense. Women behave and communicate totally differently in potentially romantic situation. All my deep, non-romantic Christian frienships with women taught me nothing whatsoever about romance.

You don't know them til you date them.