[Tax-chick]

Dr. Steve, this author, whatever her other lapses, does accurately describe the content of "Me? Obey Him?", which is a very popular tract among well-meaning Christian women. This book teaches that a woman has no moral duty other than to obey her husband (or her father, if she is unmarried).

Do you consider this a "Biblical principle?" Is it consistent with what you teach in your premarital counseling?

Thanks for your time,
Cy

[drstevej]

I have not heard of the tract.

***This book teaches that a woman has no moral duty other than to obey her husband (or her father, if she is unmarried). ***

Not sure what this means.

The number of times I have asked my wife to "submit" to my decision as the head of the home, I can counrt on one hand (29 years of marriage). In each of those cases I had listened to her perspective carefully enough to be able to articulate it to her in such a way that she knew I had "gotten" what she was saying.

Knowing her perspectives, I asked her to "submit" to my decisions for reasons I explained to her. My wife is a strong personality (scores in the 85 percentile on dominant in the T-JTA) but in each of these cases she has "submitted" to my decision without dragging her heels.

Knowing she will "submit" to me puts me under the pressure to ask it only when I would feeel comfortable explaining to the Lord why I asked her to do it. I am accountable to Him.

I have shared that approach with the couples I have counseled and married.