Posted on 02/20/2006 9:03:15 AM PST by bremenboy
Second marriage for both of us and past 20 year mark. The Nuns who attended the wedding and encouraged it along with a priest were happy and blessed the event :>} BTW we're Baptist LOL. Believe me I know real well what committment means. I also understand there are very good reasons some should divorce.
Where do you think society's laws came from? No wait you're right. It's okay to kill and steal now, those were pesky, backward Jewish nomadic laws that are out-of-date in the modern world.
Fine, but where does it say that all sin is equal? Why did Jesus fashion a whip of cords for some and not others?
The law in the USA is not based soley, or even mostly, on religious laws.
Good one.
A person submitting themselves to a corrupt religious theocracy could be, in theory, considered sinful, but then I am not going to go into that.
I try to stick to the Ten Commandments, which is more than what most people who claim to be moral do.
What's so hard about it? If you believe divorce is cool, don't bother getting married.
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What's so hard about what?
That's called preaching.
There is/are/were/always will be good and evil.
It corrupts your soul to believe all negative actions are equally evil. The first step to being a fanatic is believing that acts that disagree with your beliefs are equally evil.
In doing so you lose perspective and become arrogant, which corrupts your soul.
We are not to judge anyone. God does that, by His rules,
You are the one here doing the judging, not God, you need to admit this before your arrogance corrupts you to far.
We are all aware that there are many questionable nuns and priests in the Catholic Church.
As you stated, they don't. From what I've read of the early church fathers, they allowed a divorce based on a spouse's sexual misconduct, however they did not allow a remarriage.
And I knew that beforehand, but I figured it would be better if a Catholic explained it. Just trying to be fair. Of course you know what Chesterton said about those who try to be "fair" to the Catholic Church....
Sorry, "divorce" should have been in quotes. Or maybe separation would be a better word. In any case they did not allow remarriage, as far as I can find.
Children do suffer the most but which is worse...children living in a highly dysfunctional, extremely unhappy environment that will eventually distort their view of what a good or functional relationship is, OR children dealing with a divorce but living in a healthy, happy environment which allows for positive emotional growth by the children?
That is why it is the responsibility of the parents to provide a healthy family for the children.
This was a conservative order actually. She was divorced due to three reasons done against her by her husband adultery {involving a minor girlfriend}, physical abuse that contributed to quadriplegia, and abandonment of her and kids with no support. She was free to remarry. I was free due to being a widower. The nuns in the hospital where she was had protected her and kept big bad ex who wanted to in his words see the B*** die from entering the building.
Marriage? Commitment? I know well what it means including the words in sickness and in health so does she. Her marriage ended two years before I ever met her.
GOD brought the two of us together through a complicated string of events that started when my first wife died and involved me taking a transfer to another facility where I worked at the time. From that point things happened fast and in a precise timely manner. All decessions by both of us involved much prayer and some counceling by clergy as well both Catholic and Baptist. Some things must be done in faith.
your not judging their sins or their life
Research tends to indicate that if there is not physical abuse, children still do better living in a home with both their parents than they do having gone through their parents' divorce and subsequent living arrangements.
So it's a balancing act. Do two spouses in a troubled relationship learn to live together better, or do they free themselves at their children's expense, knowing it could have bad effects on them?
It's a call the people involved have to make. But you usually can't say it's better for the children.
Telling you what i think is not preaching. I did not say all negative actions are equally evil. I said God perceives all sins as sin. Man does not. Man cannot grant eternal life.
you said >>>>>>>>>>>>You are the one here doing the judging, not God, you need to admit this before your arrogance corrupts you to far.
I judge no one here. I told you what I think. Disagree if you like.
Would you happen to have links to this research? There are other types of abuse that can have just as severe an impact on a child...emotional or psychological abuse come to mind. Growing up, my siblings and I never experienced physical abuse, but the emotional and psychological toll was traumatizing. We begged our parents to divorce...they had decided it would be best for the children (us) if they stayed together.
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