I know an ELCA member who supports ordaining gays. She said, “The church should change, to conform to society.” I said, “No, society should change, to conform to the Bible.” She wasn’t able to argue that I was wrong, about that sentence. We argued for about a half-hour, and neither of us changed our mind.
I came up with a phrase some years ago, when all this began brewing in the ELCA, and my wife and I left for the LCMS. “Christ established his Church to change people’s minds; not change itself to suit people’s minds.”. It’s what you told the woman. You are right, she is wrong. But not all have been called, so not all will understand.