Yes, I think it is the 24/7 anonymous access. It’s not unusual to hear of people being fired from high stress jobs because they spent hours per day looking at porn. That would not have been possible in the past. Something about this constant access seems to be addicting - having constant access becomes needing constant access. In the past, having limited access seemed to limit addiction a little.
I know women who say that they were happily married and then his addiction took over until he just didn’t ‘need’ her anymore. They are both attractive (not overweight). One’s husband was a deacon in his church.
I am evangelical Christian and the pastor of our church said that over 50 percent of Christian men admit to struggling to limit or stop porn.
Hard for me to understand how it could hold anyone’s interest. It’s all the same - very monotonous.
**One’s husband was a deacon in his church.**
This is so sad. May the Lord lead him to abandoning the pornography.
I have a friend who’d drop-dead gorgeous. About 15 years into her marriage, her husband became addicted to porn. He started pressuring her into weird sex. The he started ignoring her. Finally he had an affair with a woman who would amuse his fantisies.
Yes, porn destroys marriages.
My husband is a prude when it comes to porn and I am so grateful for that! (Whenever he sees a “girls gone wild” commercial he thinks about our daughter doing these things and gets sick.)
Last winter I became very ill. I ended up gaining 30 pounds (on top of the 30 I was already overpacking). As sick as I was, it was the weight that I felt the most horrible about. It’s taken me six months to take off that last 30 and I’m still working on it.
Never once did my husband make me feel “less”. Not once did he make me feel unattractive. Knowing that I was always beautiful in his eyes gave me the strength to get my weight and health under control. There is no better motivation than feeling loved.
Had my husband become accustomed to only “reacting” to young, thin women, I don’t think our marriage would’ve survived. Heck, I wouldn’t have survived if he turned me away when I was doing my best. I needed loving comfort and acceptance when my body was falling apart.
Like in the movie “Fireproof”, the majority of marriages including good Christian marriages suffer with a little or a lot of the issues that couple had, including the husbands addiction to internet porn. That is why the movie was so good, because it spoke to all of us, convicted all of us, and showed us there is a way out. Almost all of us can find themselves in some of those same situations in our marriages. I know I do.