I hate to say it but I do agree with some of what you're saying here.I haven't been to any church for a long time and I wonder wether thinking the taking of initiative,the punishing of real thought or just the plain numbing effect is something I use as a reason for holding at arm's length what being a man of action might entail.Maybe up-ending tables?
The glimpses we have of the New Testament church indicates a much more participatory meeting than the typical SBC one. The evening services we have are, to my way of thinking, much better than the morning service. It is basically a Bible study led by the pastor, but allowing folks to comment & to ask questions and share their experiences.
I did a bit of test & acquisition work for the US Air Force before I retired. I’d go to meetings at Lockheed where engineers would be discussing stuff. And yes, although it was my work and important to me, listening to someone drone for an hour is painful.