How about for a change you spell out a few of those "gross mischaracterizations and outright lies told about the church" that you accuse us of? What posts on this thread have been lies or mischaracterizations?
I have a 10+ year posting history of doing just that. However, the logical fallacy with that type of challenge is that those very same poorly catechized former Catholics are not equipped by education or disposition to recognize or acknowledge a gross mischaracterization or outright lie and for me to insist the contrary would place me into the position of mind reading and accusing them of intentional lying. I don't want to go there.
God Bless you.