Can’t get spouse to attend a Bible-preaching non-denominational with me because of these reasons you cite.
Most especially the high sound level and the same words sung over and over and over - - I must say I agree.
And maybe most especially because of the dressing, or lack of. Shorts (men), flip flops - who is interested in seeing dirty feet, ragged nails, really? A little respect and appropriate dress for the place one is attending. (Know a woman whose husband says don’t come to his funeral if you intend to wear shorts. That disrespects the family - and woe to the family member who disrespects this way)!
Not interested in being around folks who ‘let it all hang out.’
Thank goodness there is still some decorum left here and there!
Have to add - those girls and young women who insist on styling their hair in the pews/seats. Flipping it and the dander, etc. all around - right IN FRONT of me. Can tell a parent never set the rules. Brushing, styling hair - even ‘just’ smoothing and putting in a pony-tail - is for the bathroom - NOT for my ‘enjoyment - - ‘
All these annoyances are not going to change because this church has been popular for years - hundreds of Sunday worshippers.
We are from many years attending/active, office-holding members of a mainline church.
Raised 4 daughters in it, and not one is of that denomination now. All are active (other)church members, tho.
Something we did was right!
We believe all the years attending Sunday School, church, and having fun at other times kept the girls on a good path.
We attend their churches on occasion, to be with the grandkids.