Do you realize the irony of your statement. You, a male, complain about how churches seem to cater to women, but then you, the male, don’t go. If the churches cater to women because so many of them DO have more women showing up, then maybe YOU are the crux of the problem. I am very happy to say that my husband and I have just joined a church - left our other church after 24 years - that is very strong with male leadership. There are tons of men there. It’s time you found a church and started pitching in. If you are a true disciple of Christ, you can do nothing less.
I dropped off when I saw the churches that we tried had very few male-oriented fellowship programs. Oh sure, there were men's study groups, etc, but they just weren't supportive enough of fellow members. We'd show up, do our fellowship, and go home. People we tried to create friendships with were non-committal for almost anything outside of church. And we tried quite a few churches.
It's my wife that's moved us around form church to church. She also is not satisfied with the level of Christianity on display at most of the churches we've tried. She complains about the "clique-ishness" of so many of the members, even her Women's Group.
Some do not realize how hard it is now days to find a good Christian church, so many of them are packaged as "seeker oriented", a fair euphemism for Christian-Light.
And as to the idea of maybe "I'm the problem", well, to each his own and you can assume what you like, but my wife and I have tried to organize our own Home Bible Study group ("church" are a group of people who are Christians, not a building) and most people just want to "put in their time" for an hour or so on Sunday and go home. Sorry if that sounds cynical, but tell me you've never met anyone like that.
We haven't given up and we won't. I posted my comments as a reflection of what many men really think but might not say out loud.