[Flycatcher]

It was unthinkable (is that even a word?) to me to embarrass my bride at the reception by shoving a piece of cake into her face. She gently offered me a piece too, and we've been happily married for 22 years now.

But I've been shocked at some recent weddings I've attended. Something isn't right when so many young people of today feel the need to publicly demean their new spouse at the cake exchange.

I don't like this new "tradition" at all.

[jurroppi1]

I think there is something to be said about one’s ability to let a little playfulness at the cake exchange roll off their back so to speak. If you can remain jovial after all of the stresses of the day and deal with it in a playful manner, a lot can be gleaned from that as well.

It doesn’t have to be outright smashing of the cake into your partners face, but a little playfulness well received can show comfort and trust with your partner also.