I told my bride-to-be (at the time) that I was just going to hold it up for her to take a bite, none of the stupid smashing-into-the-face stuff. She did the same and that was 22 years ago.
You must have got married close to when I did. We also agreed not to smash the cake in each others’ faces. We didn’t, and we’re still married (4 kids) 22 years later.