[gspurlock]

Fear of social rejection is being deliberately inculcated into our children in school. There is a difference between “social rejection” and not getting along without undue conflict.

All you need to get along is good manners, which are no longer being taught at home or school. Instead children are indoctrinated to supplant the self respect achieved through personal achievement with social acceptance. In other words, people are being reduced to perpetual adolescence, and subservience.

It’s time to just grow up.

[reed13k]

In some societies it has been instilled for hundreds of years. In Japan they have many sayings similar to “the nail that sticks up gets the hammer”.

Shame is a significant driver and many rise to power there by learning how to use it. These “users” don’t know how to deal with people who aren’t afraid, and will instead target those around them to attempt to reassert themselves through guilt instead of shame.

There are social norms for appropriate behavior and interaction with others that demonstrate mutual respect, and then there are social conformance norms which are attempting to control behaviors and actions.

Good post.

[defconw]

I've had a disagreement with my sister, a parochial school teacher about homeschooling. She used the argument about the kids not being socialized. To me that is the problem. How are they being socialized? “Lord of the Flies” comes to mind.