Could have been better written or was the mistake accidental double postings?Needs edited other than that good advice.
“Women get fat, bitter and depressed.”
That’s 90% of the time. The old saying is true. You want to see
your girlfriend in 20 years look at her mom. In my life I
have seen it over and over again, an attractive woman gets
married then gets fat then gets dumped, looses the weight, gets
married again and gets fat again and gets dumped again. I
don’t get it. Do women like getting fat?
Step One: Be honest. Admit that you want to get married and have a family. You don’t have to tell anyone this. Just admit it to yourself. (There, now doesn’t that feel better?)
Step Two: Look at your boyfriend. Is he sacramental marriage material?
Step Three: Learn what sacramental marriage material looks like. (See: “What a Catholic Husband Knows” below.)
Step Four: Repeat Step Two.
Steps two and three need to be reversed.
If it's not Purgatory, you're doing it wrong.
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Many a teen is faced with that question. In today's promiscuous, easy going, everything goes society teens are not taught to wait for marriage, they are told, "it is ok, if you love someone". It isn't, pre-marital sex is wrong, it is just as wrong as adultery is. While neither are wrong in the eyes of the secular world, both are absolutely wrong in the eyes of God. Making love should be reserved for those who are married and then only with each other, one man and one woman, a husband and a wife, a dad and a mom.
So girls, how do you know you are in love? How do you know the guy loves you? How do you know you want to spend the rest of your life married to this man?
For girls, the answer is simple, just as it is for boys. All we need do is go to the word of God. Girls, you are in love, really in love, when you are willing to do for that young man all that Sarai did for Abram. For before she was Sara and he was Abraham, they were Abram and Sarai. And how did Sarai treat Abram? Let's look:
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord:... (1Peter 3:6) so, first, are you willing to call this guy 'lord'? Are you willing to; Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18) Do you love him enough to call him lord and submit to his every command? Think so? There are no loopholes, the Bible teaches you that you are to submit yourself to him in everything he says and tells you to do.
Many a liberal preacher will find things you do not have to do, but, there are no ifs, ands, or buts in the word of God concerning His order for you to submit to your husband. Look here at what Abram ordered Sarai to do: And there was a famine in the land: and Abram went down into Egypt to sojourn there; for the famine was grievous in the land. And it came to pass, when he was come near to enter into Egypt, that he said unto Sarai his wife, "Behold now, I know that thou art a fair woman to look upon: Therefore it shall come to pass, when the Egyptians shall see thee, that they shall say, 'This is his wife': and they will kill me, but they will save thee alive.
Say, I pray thee, thou art my sister: that it may be well with me for thy sake; and my soul shall live because of thee."
And it came to pass, that, when Abram was come into Egypt, the Egyptians beheld the woman that she was very fair. The princes also of Pharaoh saw her, and commended her before Pharaoh: and the woman was taken into Pharaoh's house. And he entreated Abram well for her sake:... (Genesis 12:10-16) Abram told Sarai to lie, but not only to lie, but to be willing to go to bed with Pharaoh so that he, Abram, might not be harmed. Do you love him enough to obey his every command? Do you trust him enough to obey his every command?
And as for young men, do you really love her? Are you willing to do for her what God tells you that you must be willing to do for her? Think so? Do you know what it is that the Lord God Creator of all things expects from you regarding your wife? Do you know how much He demands you love her?
Can you make her very bit as important to you as your eyes? So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. ... (Ephesians 5:28) For God commands that you do just that, that you love her every bit as much as you love your eyes, your hands, your testicles and your heart. For if you ignore God's word, concerning how you are to treat and love your wife, read here what He may do: Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of Life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7)
Have you answered yes so far? Sounds like you may just really love her, but there is more: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; (Ephesians 5:25) Are you willing to do for her just what Jesus did for us? Are you willing to suffer torture and even death for her Just as the Lord did for us? And are you willing to do it without crying out or begging for mercy? Or turning to her and saying, "See what I am doing for you?"
So, have you both said yes to every question so far?
Young lady, have you looked into his eyes and into your heart and said: "I can be his Sarah and I believe he will do for me as the Lord did for us." And you young man, can you look her in the eye and say, "I love you so much, I can and will, if called upon, put your life ahead of mine, you are every bit as important to me as any part of my own body, and I will love, cherish and care for you as well as and even better than any part of my body." And can you look within yourself and tell yourself that you are convinced that she will obey you as Sara obeyed Abraham? If so, then you are more than likely truly in love, but let's see if you are really and truly in love, there is a way for each of you to prove your love one for another.
How, you ask? Now, that is rather simple as well. If you really love him, you will prove it by being chaste on your wedding night and if he really loves you, he will help you remain a chaste in all aspects till your wedding night. You likewise will help him to remain a chaste as well. For girls, if he will not help you remain chaste till your wedding night, how can you trust him with the power to order you to do all things? The test of love over lust is chaste behavior. If you cannot put your lust aside for your love, than you are not in love, you are in lust. No loop holes, none of this technical virgin stuff, none of this "it all depends on what the meaning of is, is".
If you love one another, instead of being sexually active before marriage, you will demonstrate your love for one and other, by praying together and working together to save any and all love making for the night of your wedding. . The Lord God, Christ Jesus, be with you all. Amen.
Mature adults make happy marriages and good sex is the result, not the cause.
Granted a marriage without sex is not going to be happy, but that does not by default mean that having sex is going to make your marriage happy. Unless there's some physical reason for a sexless marriage, a sexless marriage is a really strong indicator that there is something else going on (IOW something is wrong) that needs to be addressed.
I swear I have never slept with any of my boyfriends.
“After that, the men settle down and marry a younger woman, if they are successful enough. Women get fat, bitter and depressed.”
Yup.
Oh I like this; this is pure beauty.
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My first thought was to send a copy to Andrew Sullivan...but that’s a whole other “why you shouldn’t sleep with your boyfriend”.