Because seeking vengeance is destructive to our souls. thus the saying “pray for those who despitefully use you.” It took me 20 years to forgive my ex-wife for leaving me and moving in with another man and having his child. The lack of forgiveness/wanting revenge in some manner to her gnawed at me and my soul. One day, I accidently went by her and afterward realized that I had had no negative reaction. Will I forget what she did, No; have I released my desire for vengeance/hurt what she did, yes.
I thank you truly, all of you that answered my question. I am very sorry for your situation but I am glad you were able to rise above it. Betrayal of the heart I feel is the worst thing you can do to someone.
I could not find it in my heart to forgive someone and she threatened to kill herself. She finally did one day. I have to live with that and maybe that is my punishment. I do not wish that on anyone and yet I still have a tough time with forgiveness and wanting justice.
I am a failed catholic and I am not expecting to get into heaven. It is my biggest fault and after 50 years I doubt if there is much of a soul left to save.
You have all opened my eyes and I do understand it, to actually change I honestly think I am too old for that.
I finally understood forgiveness when someone explained that souring your heart with resentment and anger at someone who hurt you is the process of taking what terrible thing they did and using it against yourself.