This is a false dichotomy. Children can be trained to behave.
Infants and toddlers chortling and chattering are not a problem. Those screaming at the top pf their lungs can be brought outside for a moment, calmed down, then brought back inside.
I’ve known parents of large families, some of their children with handicaps leading to behavioral problems who worked hard to keep their children under control and in church during mass.
It’s common sense and common courtesy, but it takes an effort on the part of the parents.
So please don’t make it a choice between no children or mayhem. There is a third option: good parenting.
But I do agree about the cry rooms, but for a practical reason. It is nearly impossible to train children how to behave in a room where they are isolated from the Mass and the other children are screaming.
The method we used was to sit up front where the children could see the altar, yet off to the side where I could slip out the side door with an anxious little one. I also knew during which parts of the Mass to scoot out. When there was music and singing, noisy kids are no problem. Depending on the child and her behavior, I would slip out during the homily, then return during the consecration, unless the tyke was particularly active. Then I would hover in the narthex until the singing started again.
It takes effort to train children.
Wonderful, scriptural, and Christian response from Bishop Thomas.
If you chose to disregard the advice of our Bishops, then perhaps it is someone other than than the child who needs to be removed until they learn how to behave.