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Speaking as a (young-ish) man, from my interactions with other guys -- there are legitimate concerns about the courts favoring women and so forth, but a great deal of the problem is rooted in selfishness and laziness. A lot of men just don't want to have a wife and kids. They don't want to put themselves out for a family, financially or personally. They're too lazy to put the necessary effort into maintaining relationships. They just don't feel like putting a family before themselves, spending money on a family that they'd rather spend on themselves, spending time on a family that they'd rather spend pursuing their own interests, they don't want to being tied-down or committed. And as the article notes, they can get milk without buying the cow. And of course, they find that women are every bit as selfish as themselves, and how can two selfish people commit to a sacrament that fundamentally requires you to put another person before yourself?

Ironically enough, guys I know who emphatically insist that they will never put themselves out in the slightest for a relationship, will walk through fire to help out one of their male friends. Our culture has cultivated a fundamental distrust, verging on contempt, between the sexes.

Our culture has cultivated a fundamental distrust, verging on contempt, between the sexes.

Ever heard the term "battle of the sexes"?

Yes?

Who engages in battle?

ENEMIES, that's who!

Are Man and Woman naturally enemies? Is that what God had in mind when He create us?

NO! Not merely NO!, but HELL NO!!!!

And I chose those words deliberately ... because I know whence came the concept of a "battle of the sexes" ...

That’s true; the divide & conquer strategy of the Bolsheviks has worked wonders between the genders. I wouldn’t call the unmarried men lazy; these are the children of the earlier generation that saw divorce become commonplace, and they have heard all of the horror stories. I suspect they would have wives and children if they weren’t 100% aware that sheer boredom on the part of the wife can ruin them financially for decades and steal their children from them.

Trust me, if it wasn’t the deck loaded against men we’d have a lot of men griping about the decline of marriage - and that just isn’t happening. They’ll take the cheap shots from the enemedia about living in basements, playing video games and so forth - and they’ll retain their economic independence and happiness. As a married father, I understand; I don’t agree with them, but I understand.

Men will have intimacy with a woman who, in many cases even after marriage, is very willing to kill their child and people expect trust between the sexes

This insanity is ignored and it is the problem

If you look at how children are raised now it’s understandable that two young people have a hard time in a committed relationship and don’t want to get married. Kids nowadays are raised to believe that they are special little snowflakes. As soon as they are big enough to sit in a highchair they are asked what they want for dinner. When they go out to dinner they’re allowed to run around an behave poorly. Parents don’t monitor or correct their behavior. The parents tell them they’re cute and creative.

Then the kids grow up and get exposed to a real job in the real world. They live with a girl/guy friend who has been as spoiled and indulged as they were. They’re no longer special and they no longer have parents catering to their every whim. No wonder they don’t want to get married. They’re not good marriage material.