I dropped out of this 18 years ago today. I am 60 years of age, never married, never “played the field”, and have no use for porn. I just concluded that I did not meet modern women’s unattainable standard. I am gainfully employed, keep myself in good health (not a couch potato), and have a wide variety of interests. But I have found that women will see all the good things, and think it’s too good to be true. So they will make up stuff. The one I was dating at the time (we’re talking bike rides, lunch, tame stuff, nothing immoral) decided to do some amateur detective work on the internet. One of the hits was a similar name, different middle name. That was it, in her mind she “found the dark secret”. I became this white supremacist Aryan Nation domestic terrorist child molester. She was convinced, she saw it on the internet! She proceeded to make my life miserable with this slander.
And where do they get these ideas of unattainable perfection and there must be some hidden dark secret? Soap operas. Romance novels. Not being in church. I found this to be so widespread that I concluded that it was no longer worth the pursuit. I will remain single.
also probably the billions of crime/police dramas on tv. we are swimming, on purpose, in hundreds of crime/police shows on tv. on purpose. for cops,on ‘purpose, and for us, on purpose.