Would your God cheat Joseph, telling him to go ahead and take Mary as his wife --in other words marry her, with all that meant in a sacred Jewish marriage? How about deceiving the Jewish people around the couple, and the specific meaning of a sacred Jewish wedding?
Search the Scriptures and find just one passage where God cheats anyone He has called to His Holy work. IF you find that, I will reconsider what I choose to believe about my God.
I'm sorry, but It's not clear to me what you are talking about. Since I do not read minds, I'd be very grateful if you would express precisely what your point is here. Thanks.