You are correct that Jesus did not use the word harpazo in that Discourse, but it appears you do not want to see that He was referring to what He, through the Holy Spirit, more fully revealed with Paul's writing of things GOD showed him when he was taken up to heaven, as described to the Galatians.
It is left to a believer to reason these issues out. If you choose to not go any further with them, so be it. pax vobiscum.
The taking these to Himself and back tot he Father's House, found in John 14 is not something happening after the Tribulation because the Bride returns with Him at the end of the Tribulation and is with Him reigning here during the millennium.
Several good teachers have pointed to Jesus paralleling the events of the Church Age and the Rapture and the time in Heaven prior to returning tot he earth, paralleling these with the process of the Jewish wedding process. Seeing those parallels might help ...
You are trying to mixing two very different things Jesus said into being about the same thing. They are not as shown by scripture here in this thread. I will only take the Word as stated not as assumed or made to fit a believed doctrine, so bunny trails just don’t work with me.
Nowhere have you shown direct scripture evidence for a pre-trib rapture or the church removed from earth. The millennium rule of Jesus is here on earth, heavenly Jerusalem and earthly Jerusalem joined. This place Jesus prepares for us eternity secure in him alone.