[sitonit]

Stanley should leave his position. If a man can not keep his home in order,he should not be leading a church.

[DittoJed2]

You don't know the whole story here. I think Anna had some emotional problems. Part of this was due to Stanley's being so involved in church work but part was due to death threats made against them. She saw a psychiatrist for a while who I have heard was not one inclined to lead her towards reconciliation. People make choices that others can not control. She chose to end their marriage though he wanted to save it. This doesn't say he was an innocent lamb in all of this, but when her mind was made up (for two years before their separation she didn't really attend church) it was made up. You can't lay the blame on him entirely for not holding his house together.

[ingodsimage2]

If the Bible indeed means that “a man of one wife” cannot be divorced or widowed and remarried then of course he should resign. However, to assume every divorce is the fault of two people is naive and judgmental. You don’t ask a rape victim what she did to deserve it. You don’t go to the people whose house was robbed and tell them that they share the blame. I am not qualified to judge Charles Stanley’s homelife and I doubt most on this forum are not either. However, God is ultimately the just judge and Stanley’s church is close enough to have a handle on Stanley’s life. I would trust their decision and stand by it. Stanley has touched many lives for the Gospel...let him continue to preach it. “Whether for selfish reasons or no, let the Gospel of Christ be preached.”

If all preachers had perfect homes, who could preach to those who don’t?

[rpj1212]

I completely disagree. I am the father of two wonderful children who I have raised in the church. Each evening we all sat down as a family and had family devotions and discussions often lasting hours. It was the most peaceful time in our lives. I was in leadership at my church and raising Godly children. My wife began to drift away and made Facebook her priority and rarely participated in devotions any more. After many discussions about unity and the importance of being in the word daily she began building walls. Within the year she had left the home and pursued her male friend she met on that site.There is a real enemy out there ready to attack anyone standing for the Lord and to say that a man can’t be effective in leadership if his family is in disarray is a big leap. I would say walk a mile in his shoes or at least be thankful this has not happened to you.

[andyboy]

all the rhetoric about this particular qualification of an elder/bishop/deacon/pastor....... Where in Scripture, pray tell, is there an indication that bullies and trouble makers,
gossipers and control freaks may serve in a capacity of leadership? And how did so many men/women who are in those categories I have listed get to be leaders in ANY church, much less a Southern Baptist church?