None of which call upon the doer to deploy, endure the separation from the family, or to have somebody actively trying to kill you. That some folks do that kind of work is laudable. It is productive, it provides security, it frees the others to do other work. It isn't like most gov't jobs. It is the only gov't service where the promises made can be reneged upon at the convenience of the people provided the service of security.
If military pay is going to reach parity with these other jobs, then there's nothing more special about military service
There isn't any parity with other jobs, because there is little other work that has the same claims on one's life.
The military has reached the point where we need to end treating them as all the same.
Someone who spends her entire career as a legal assistant, or dental assistant, does not need the same exact treatment as a career infantryman, who even if he lives, he is living the life of an athlete, and is using himself up physically, not to mention his personal life.