Posted on 12/20/2017 2:19:13 PM PST by x1stcav
Food, drink, sex ...
...some money in the pocket...
...having a space to call his own ... where he can retreat when needed (sleep, read, watch tv).
LOL
One of the things that women don’t get is that men need them for sex.
Oh, really? I’m pretty sure my “fellow” women are aware of that.
“Avoid women who didn’t grow up with a real father in their household.”
I have told all my children that when it comes time to find a spouse I don’t care much about religion (except the head chopping one), don’t care their nationality or race although I would steer my girls away from marrying a Latin American or Asian (not a Hispanic American who grew up here or an Asian-American who grew up here but ones who grew up and live in a ugly misogynistic culture. That said the one rule, “Marry someone whose parents are still married.” Crazy is both genetic and modeled behavior and you don’t want any part of it.
Hi freedumb2003. . .I’m not familiar with the video. I’ll check the fellow out on youtube. He sounds pretty amusing. Merry Christmas!!!
Yes - men’s brains are full of boxes, with one subject in each box. You pull out the box and talk about what is in that box, and that box only. Say cars. Another box is sports. Etc.
Then he talks about women’s brains being a big bundle of wires and they are all touching each other. Bring up the car, then thoughts of money, job, savings, kids, etc.
And women are ALWAYS thinking (and emoting) about something, so they can’t understand the man’s “nothing box” - our favorite box!
“Hi Dear - what are you thinking about!?”
“Uh - nothing.”
“Oh come on - you can tell me - what is it?”
“No really - I’m not thinking of anything.”
Are there divorced men who have busy lives who would love a relationship with a like minded woman who didn’t want to live with them? That’s what I think I want. No pressure to combine lives.
That sounds like what I want. All the problems seem to come from the living together expectations, the controlling, the constant togetherness.
Probably more like the end of the need for Child Support.
Thank you! That is cute.
You could find a guy who can handle the two of you being co-alphas with your own separate spaces-there are macho men like that out there...
Since my both dad and my aunt’s husband were in the military, and she and her kids lived on the family ranch too, we grew up used to moms running the ranch while dads were away-seemed totally normal to us-and when our dads were home for awhile, the time we spent with them was wonderful and precious. Might be why I’ve only chosen men who were either military members or traveled with their work-like both husbands and my macho cowboy. He has been single longer than I have-so we are both used to having our own space and won’t give it up-hence-as you pointed out, no control issues, no minor annoyances turning into major complaints.
There actually were a few nasty, catty acquaintances who told him he should be careful because I am a black widow-only one wasn’t either a woman he’d rebuffed, or a guy I’d turned down for a date-so he told them he would take his chances...
There were a few rough patches at first-he is stubborn, set in his ways and I’m a typical Latina-but they resolved soon enough-we are politically alike, compatible in every way-and along with the joy of rediscovering one another after so many years, I think the anticipation of being together after our work week is over keeps the relationship loving and exciting, too. It isn’t for everyone, but it has worked for us since last February when we committed to each other...
It sounds wonderful and ideal to me. Keep enjoying each other!
Let us know when you find a co-alpha so we can wish you well!
But if he was truly an alpha male would he want an alpha female?
I don’t think I am an alpha, not sure. I just don’t want to commingle finances kids and house. What does that make me? ;)
I don’t think any men who know or knew me would call me alpha, even my exes. I’m just no longer willing to put myself aside 100% for the man. Life is too short.
It works for wolves-the alpha pair leads/rules the pack together...
It works that way for me-we take turns-if I’m at his place-his “territory”, I defer to the way he wants things done-when he is at my place-my “territory”, he defers to me in the same way. In private decisions/matters, the one who has the professional expertise in whatever is being considered takes the alpha role-it just makes sense...
In the grocery store, butcher shop, etc I’m the alpha since I do the lion’s share of the food preparation/cooking-otherwise in public, he does take the alpha turn-he opens the door for me, puts his arm on my waist when we go into a building-I even let him order for me in restaurants-he likes that...
May sound a bit complicated, but it isn’t-we share that alpha role without much thought...
“I’m just no longer willing to put myself aside 100% for the man.”
I think when you came to that decision, you did indeed become an alpha-willing to share with an alpha male, but not to totally submit/defer to one anymore...
“What does that make me? “
A person that knows what they want? I find that refreshing!
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