Love across the lines

guardian ^ | 2/10/04

[mylife]

Also know a big ole half Vietnamese galoot with a big ole southern accent and Tony Lama boots who just loves Travis Tritt. ;) Ohhhhh My God there are two?

One of my favorite friends in the world is a fellow born in Nam but raised in Broken Bow Oklahoma from the age of 10. He is a rednecks redneck yet a software engineer. He wears a ballcap, hunts his own food, is a fishing fool, always has a plug of chaw in his mouth, Speaks with an odd Viet twinged southern drawl and just generally cracks me up and is one fine host!!

[lady lawyer]

No problem. I do the same thing

[cyborg]

and at that age! Some people haven't figured it out. Usually it's because it's a fault within that they don't want to acknowledge. Besides his father abandoned him. Actually they're both dysfunctional, abandoned fathers, so maybe they'll make it.

[mylife]

You know the folks in our camp would wait to do the right thing and not disrespect the military. I suppose all these strict rules are because of the people they're dealing with.

Yup you are right...I fouled up in not reading the entire article before commenting. See my post 35

[mylife]

I know a fellow who married his wife 8 times and divorced her 7 at last count.

one girl....go figure

[Siamese Princess]

As long as the first two, if he hasn't figured himself out.

The important thing is that she has her green card by then. Then it may be "hasta la vista" to her GI hubby.

I remember reading other articles on FR about the two GIs who converted to Islam in order to marry Iraqi Muslim girls -- I think that this fellow was married and divorced only once and one of his two kids is illegitimate. I didn't know that the marriage of the other one dissolved so quickly. In the pictures, his bride is scantilly clad by Iraqi standards -- not only bareheaded, but wearing a short-sleeved dress.

[tortoise]

and at that age! Some people haven't figured it out. Usually it's because it's a fault within that they don't want to acknowledge.

Yeah. You would hope that most people would learn after one go around.

Part of it, especially when you are young, is that you are basically ignorant about relationships or even what constitutes a good and worthwhile one -- I know I was. It isn't that I wasn't smart or that I was emotionally immature (although that may have played a role), but mostly that I didn't know what I was doing. In retrospect, I made a lot of mistakes and did a lot of stupid things, which was part of the problem, but those are correctable once recognized. Making a bad relationship choice in the first place is a little more difficult to correct.

When I was much younger (not that I am old now), I was married briefly, less than a year from start to finish. Boy did I ever get an education on relationships and what qualities really matter in a woman. While I regard it as one of the biggest mistakes I ever made, it was also one of the best learning experiences I ever had and it matured me a lot. It vastly improved the quality of my relationships afterward because I finally understood the big picture. I've only been married that once, but now I know that when (if?) I do get married, it will work out very well the next time around because I know precisely what is actually involved.

[cyborg]

good post excellent explanation... I think this soldier has some personal issues that need some counseling.

[tortoise]

I know a fellow who married his wife 8 times and divorced her 7 at last count.

I had a friend in college who had been going out with the same girl as long as anyone could remember. Every other week it seemed they would break up, and a few days later they would be back again. It was almost a ritual for years and years and years (last I knew, they were still together, though that was many years ago). I think some people just like that kind of drama.

Mind you, I actually thought this particular girl was a little bit crazy, but maybe all guys need some sort of crazy.

[saquin]

I think this soldier has some personal issues that need some counseling.

But he's handsome!!

Isn't that enough for you people?!?!

[Lion in Winter]

He should have been court martialed. What a jerk.

[cyborg]

yeah maybe I should give him a break :)

[Just another Joe]

This marriage wont be easy.. A southern (presumably baptist) country boy and a big city muslim girl

You're right.
This coming from a southern (baptist) country boy who married a Philippino catholic girl, while in the Navy, while in the Philippines.
Two years of red tape to get married in the PI but almost 21 years later and we're still together.
Beat the Navy counselors predictions by 15 years, so far.