Get Over It -- He Certainly Has

The Sydney Morning Herald ^ | 11.27.2004 | Caroline Overington

[annyokie]

If you guys would only bring home a handsome paycheck that would allow us to stay home with the kids, shop and go to the beauty salon, life would be perfect.

[Coachm]

Bullseye! Same for me except we're on the opposite sides of the track gender-wise. I never sweated anything when I started dating my wife.

[jigsaw]

If you guys would only bring home a handsome paycheck that
would allow us to stay home with the kids, shop and go to
the beauty salon, life would be perfect.

I'm guessing that's your tongue in your cheek and not some guy's tongue.   LOL!

[lavrenti]

I actually had a shot at that, once.

[muir_redwoods]

Both men and women fall for the person they want. They don't need to be able to describe the person in words to be able to recognize him or her when they come along. They don't need to even know why they want a particular person they just know it.

It's an old system but it works pretty well.

[streetpreacher]

"Men are not complicated. There are no mixed messages," Behrendt says. "Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman 'you're not the one'. But their actions absolutely show how they feel."

I for one disagree with this premise and I get tired of this mantra that all guys are simplistic, non-introspective, buffoons. First Dr. Laura (who comes across as a smug, full of herself "conservative" feminist) with her "The Proper Care and Feeding of Men" or whatever the heck it's called and now this. The fact is some guys do have trouble expressing their feelings (an age old truth); I know I fit into that category.

There was a girl that I was head over heels for but I was unable to express my feelings to her. I was so afraid of being rejected which is kind of funny, because I don't consider myself that unattractive or undesirable on the food chain but a lot of it had to do with my childhood (Inner child VICTIM ping).

Everyone is an individual with his/her own set of experiences that shape us to some degree and affect our relationships. We all can't be neatly pigeon-holed in these broad "gender" categories.

FWIW, I'm glad that I was unable to let this girl know how I feel, because she turned out to be somewhat of a floozy and I eventually fell in love with my best friend at the time who became my wife.

[annyokie]

I was only kidding. I've been there, too.

[speedy]

Well, this is a step in the right direction after those pictures of naked fat middle-aged men you posted last night (and I thought AdminModerator was going to ban your account for that.) Since you posted the picture of SJP, I will say that about two years ago I saw her about three tables away at Le Bernardin in Midtown. I never could stand her to being with, but she really is A)emaciated and B)very unattractive, to put it gently.

[gotmatt]

The only way a man can say he "misses you" is if he's choosing, every day, not to see you

Obviously this person has never been in a long distance relationship.

Oh, and another thing, the sequel to this book of basic common sense should be "IF YOU'RE GIVING AWAY THE MILK, WHY WOULD HE BUY THE COW?"

[Dont_Tread_On_Me_888]

Why don't women understand this?

This is no different than fat women trying to figure out how to lose weight. They spend thousands on books, videos, diet fads, . . .

but, they can't understand four simple words: Eat less--exercise more.

Why do women make a mountainout of a molehill? Why do they have a hard time seeing the most basic things?

[Campion]

Is there a woman alive who hasn't sat on the couch, sobbing and saying: "Why doesn't he call?"

There's a classic exercise program that can prevent this problem in over 90% of cases. The woman brings her knees together until they touch ... then keeps them that way.

[Capriole]

A friend of mine (she's deceased now, God rest her soul) used to say a lot, "Men want what they can't have." ;)

People want what they can't have, and if they can't have it readily, that makes it seem more valuable. But I believe men tend to be this way more than women are; it's hard-wired into their brains.

In the last century women shot themselves in the foot with feminism. First, we made ourselves less desirable with our choice of fashions and our unfeminine behavior, and then we began handing sex out casually to anyone who asked, or even men who didn't ask. How can a man treasure, respect, honor, and long for a slut who has been passed around and has more mileage on her than a '67 Chevy? It's my belief that men (good men, anyway) really do want to find some goddess and fall in love with her and give her fidelity. But it's pretty hard for a man to think of her as a goddess to be cherished when she's throwing herself at him.

[Alia]

Read the book, enjoyed it much. It's the modernized "The Rules" - modernized only in approach and language choice. The male writer is EXCELLENT, and right-on target. A fast read; and I highly recommend it to females who are inclined towards unrealistic attachments.

[AmishDude]

I met Sarah once. Asked her how old she was. She said:

*clop* *clop* *clop* . . .

[Ichneumon]

"Men want what they can't have."

So do women.

[Neets]

BTT

[jigsaw]

I met Sarah once. Asked her how old she was. She said: *clop* *clop* *clop* . . .

Obviously she's a Kerry supporter.

[puppetz]

hah thats what I thought this was going to be about :p

[lavrenti]

Actually, those are legitimate desires.

I got this close to being a normal middle class traditional guy. Ah, but when the fates intervene, they do it with humor and irony.

[AmishDude]

and then we began handing sex out casually to anyone who asked, or even men who didn't ask.

When was this? Where was I? Is it still happening or did I miss another trend again?