Posted on 06/27/2008 8:34:13 AM PDT by wintertime
I totally agree with you. That is EXACTLY how I would handle it if my daughter (God forbid) should ever become pregnant as a teen. Kept away from public view, no celebration, no showers, adoption.
Sad.
When I grow up, I want to be just like YOU. :-)
I’m a single mom who adopted four siblings out of foster care. They are doing so well in every way. Risk factors aside — I believe I’ll have similar stories to tell about MY children that YOU are telling about yours.
God bless you...I’ll bet you sacrificed and took a lot of criticism for a lot of things you did for them and TO them.
Yall c'mom. I home schooled too. Home schoolers aren't perfect kids. They can be just as rebellious as any other kids, and if they are in "lust" they can get in trouble too. This girl is not your average 14 y/o ,any kind of school kid.
Don’t forget the public stoning.
Except for the adoption part I agree with you. We shouldn’t ever be ashamed of babies but we need to get away from encouraging unwed pregnancy.
Feminazis are happy. Normal people are disgusted.
Adoption has it’s place but IMO is you have supportive parents and a girl that wants to keep her baby...she shouldn’t be pressured to give the child up.
Good for them. I’m glad to hear every once in a while that things work out. :)
One of the things I think every parent should teach their sons and daughters is that we all make mistakes. Let them know that yes you might be disappointed but if a pregnancy happens let them know you will still love them and be there to help. Teach them that there are people that might encourage an abortion but to promise that they will always talk with you first before doing something like that...no matter how old they are.
We have to remember that children as well as adults are human, and humans make mistakes in their lives. It is a part of life to deal with mistakes that we make and mistakes that our children make. I see a parent’s job as teaching our children how to live a good life, and making sure they have the skills to do so. We also have to teach them how to deal with mistakes because of course that will happen along the way. If we expect perfection from our children it will not happen. There will be disappointment along the way- usually small disappointments if they have been raised well; but at times the disappointments are huge any way and we still have to deal with them- dust ourselves off and begin again.
The homeschoolers I know that have gotten pregnant before marriage were older and I think all of them married and made families. No divorces yet that I know of, but I don’t think any of them have been married more than five or six years.
Would it matter to you what age your daughter was, and what her choices might be in regards to the adoption?
I am asking because I had a niece that got pregnant at 17, my sister and her husband were insisting she adopt the baby out- though my niece wanted to raise the baby. My mother got into the deal and said she would help my niece if she wanted to keep her baby. My niece kept the baby, finished school- she and the dad ended up marrying about a year later. My niece became a nurse and has been raising a wonderful young man all these years. He is now about to turn 18 and is considering joining the military. I don’t think there is a one size fits all solution to this problem. I think in some cases adoption is the answer, but in other situations it might not be the best answer.
You will get no argument from me.
That was an uncalled for crack about the school nurse.
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