The Pain of Divorce and Remarriage in a Beer Commercial?

Archdiocese of Washington ^ | 01-04-19 | Msgr. Charles Pope

[MayflowerMadam]

“know a number of them who don’t perform marriages outside of their flock. What do the Catholics do?”

I don’t know what Catholics do in this regard. Dad was a pastor for 60 years, and he would marry couples “outside of his flock” if he was asked. The parsonage was next door to the church, so we’d have couples just show up wanting to be married.

He wouldn’t marry them if either was divorced and the ex spouse was still living. He wouldn’t marry them if one was saved and the other wasn’t. If neither was saved he’d marry them after explaining the plan of salvation to them. He didn’t take money.

My church ministry also is in music as volunteer organ and piano. I play for weddings and funerals and and accept a donation if I don’t know the people. If I kow them, then no money.

Church shouldn’t be a revenue generatung enterprise, IMHO. If we have visitors they’re told not to put money in the offering plate — that it’s the members’ responsibility to fund the church.

[af_vet_1981]

lots of abuse and coercion in that community

Can you name any community, religious or otherwise, that does not have lots of abuse and coercion ?

[yldstrk]

Nope

[Biggirl]

Take a look at a mirror and it fits you to a perfect “t”.

[Biggirl]

I have no children. Married outside of the Church. Defect of form type of anullment going for.

[Ann Archy]

Of COURSE there are a FEW reasons not to stay married, but MOST people just change their minds or get bored.

[rollo tomasi]

Murder occurs for materialistic gain, not because they could not get divorced. The outcome of the divorce (Financially/custody in some cases) and the fact that they treat their wives as a possession "who can't have another man" or females (Yes, cases of wives murdering husbands do exist) doing the same are reasons.

Ergo, most current divorces are initialized through a selfish entitlement mentality caused by the spouse at fault, not because something worse will "happen".

If the vow is broken, then the one who is not at fault is spiritually justified pursuing a divorce.

Chasing younger tail, boredom, or hypergamy as an initiator of divorce (Which most are today), especially those convincing themselves they are Christian/under God's Grace, are in serious spiritual jeopardy.

As far as divorce preventing something worse from happening, well my anecdotal example is one concerning my children that says you are wrong; academically the Wallerstein's study is a good example of kids becoming cannon fodder from the fallout of selfish and entitled adults that refuse to humble themselves to God and their vows to God.

[AbolishCSEU]

It’s interesting to note that abuse by the female is on the upswing. There are no shelters for men and the women usually get custody regardless.

Yes there are some abuse cases. I know because I was in those situations, however most divorces are based on sheer boredom with their spouses, i.e. he’s not romantic with me any more, etc.

realworlddivorce.com

[AbolishCSEU]

We are praying for when she finally gets off the payroll
aka astronomical “child” support.

[AbolishCSEU]

realworlddivorce.com (give it a thorough read)

If you have children, look for Dr. Craig Childress’ videos on youtube.

[Biggirl]

Well I am coming out from an abusive marriage experience and though women do abuse,more of it comes from the male side.

[monocle]

Do support staying married in a marriage where physical abuse is occurring? Is the abuser a good role model?

[Yaelle]

STAY MARRIED FOR YOUR KIDS SAKE

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I tried that. It doesn’t always work. The suffering spouse could end up with depression which leads to cancer or worse. It is not necessary to die in misery for your kids. They don’t want that.

Both partners have to keep the deal and perform at least a bare minimum of decency to the other. Divorce is unpleasant but there is a lot worse.

[yldstrk]

Yes, I know all about Wallerstein and admire her work. The problem is that some families are causing the damage staying together and don’t or can’t get better.

[AbolishCSEU]

Yeah especially if there is alcoholism.

[southern rock]

Do support staying married in a marriage where physical abuse is occurring?

I don’t support staying in marriage at all. I don’t support the institution. Unfortunately, for a man, once you are married its too late. The damage is already done. There are no good options. Shes got you by the shorthairs. But at the end of the day, if you can get out with your life in tact I say go for it. Reclaim your freedom .

[Biggirl]

I see too many Debbie Downers here.