Posted on 04/24/2024 8:13:13 PM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
She has a cash flow problem. Complaining about it publicly isn't going to solve it. If she doesn't want a second job, she could be working on something that adds to her skill set and makes her more employable.
Exactly.
As another person opined, she probably has a house too big for what she can afford, furnishings of the highest quality, a car more expensive than she needs, the top of the line computer, top of the line cell phone, clothes to match, gym memberships, yoga clubs, dinners at restaurants, a state-of-the-art 85” flat screen, all cable channels available, vacations to the best places, etc. etc. etc.
When I got married, for nearly ten years, my wife and I got a small, unlovely, 1963 ranch on a quarter acre, and we probably purchased three pieces of furniture in that time, using mostly furniture, tools, and kitchen gear that was second-hand, and we purchased utilitarian level cars with cash, when we could. We paid off our mortgage in half the time by dedicating an extra $100 each month towards the principal on the mortgage.
My wife is great on that. She never “wanted”. Ever. She made do, and was quite happy to do so. Boy, do I admire and love that woman.
I think you are right. This woman has a cash flow problem, I would bet on it.
Reminds me of the time I took a tour of Annapolis. Tour guide was an O6. I thought rather odd duty. The powers that be had just been directed to take down a mural and no public prayers at meals. I advised our guide that I would never encourage/allow my kids to attend such gobt school at the tour conclusion.
Retired USNR
When many of the manufacturing jobs went offshore we were told how great that was for the consumer. They then offshored technology jobs and it was still a great thing. Now that it has trickled down to affect all of the useless degrees, it is a big problem.
I think his response is typical egotistical, ‘look at me’, stick-up-the-ass stuff, and incredibly ungracious; but I see it so often now that I just don’t thank them anymore.
Don’t forget the latest upgraded cell phone and frequent trips to Pricey Coffee Place.
Pretty much each generation has their own preferences for luxuries they will crawl over broken glass to get versus what they really need. But so many in the younger generations seem to have many more expectations for luxury versus needs but just don’t understand that everyone else shouldn’t be expected to foot the bill.
Peach
the two-job phenomenon is as old america ... during settler times, couples both had to work dawn to dusk to keep body and soul together ... in more modern times, couples STILL both usually had to work at external jobs ... only the upper middle classes had the luxury of a single-earner in the family ...
“We did a lot of shopping on Craigs list, the Salvation Army, Goodwill, etc. I’m not embarrassed to wear 2nd had clothes.”
My life took a financial downturn in the late ‘80s (Lifetime Movie situation, a fiance wiped me out and disappeared. Long story.) I replenished all my “stuff” at Salvation Army, Goodwill and other thrift places. Am living better than well now, but I have held on to many of those things just to remind me. Have always bought some clothes at thrift shops ‘cause you can find some great bargains.
The money people pay for coffee shop beverages, etc., astounds me.
Your replies are gold.
They should be concisely included as a forward in the Jobs Almanac.
It took me half my life to figure it out.
Don’t you find it a little dystopian that you had to work 60 or more hours a week for 30 years to be self sufficient and have those basic things? Or that you had an employer who made you feel insecure that if you didn’t work at least 20 hours per week beyond the hours of a full time position they might not keep you around?
Many salaried positions require one to work more than 40 hours. You work till the work is done.
Yes. I work in investment banking and have a salaried position and always have, except during high school. If it was taking me 60 hours per week to get my work done it would be a performance issue. I understand the concept of an associate at a law firm, or an analyst with a job in banking or a corporate job, working many many hours is standard. But once you start moving up the hours expected are reduced. It sounds like the OP was pretty much working two jobs and only being recognized for one job.
It was never my observation in academia, medical research/veterinary care - or even retail management - that ‘moving up’ reduced anyone’s hours.
Many jobs aren’t predictable as to how long things take. There are always crises, sudden staffing issues, fires to put out. However, generally jobs that carry greater responsibility do pay accordingly and confer a higher ‘status’.
Everything in life is a trade-off of one kind or another.
Oh I totally understand that. In my job there are sometimes deals that require many hours until they are closed, and often 24 hour days from our law firms. After the deal is closed we take it easy for a couple days, or take a couple days off. But we don’t work at such a frenetic pace all time. Generally, as you advance in your career you work fewer hours and the people who are starting out fill in the gaps. No partner in a law firm works as many hours as an associate. If an employer projects to his team that in order to provide value and keep their job they should be working what amounts to two extra weeks a month there is something wrong. What kind of life is it to work an average of 12 hours a day and spend your time off doing chores and sleeping?
It’s a life that some people are happy to accept at times in life. I once worked two jobs for years, often seven days a week for months. I wanted to get ahead and was free to do that.
Same here. NEVER made more than $20 an hour.
OWN all my property-—vehicles—personal items including my horse & dog. FREE & CLEAR.
I would happily audit the money a young person spends to show them the items they are demanding that they DO NOT NEED TO SURVIVE.
Today’s generations have IMPULSE spending PHD’s.
Today’s kids have PHD’s in impulse spending
Have owned ONLY ONE new car in 68 years.....
A 1965 Pontiac wagon ——I put 444,000 miles on it in 30 years. ORIGINAL engine
In my little podunk county seat, the driveup line for Starbucks winds outta the lot, back onto the access road.
They must put drugs in each of those cupes!
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