Daycare Travesty Repeated Daily

Blogspot ^ | 8/12/2010 | eRtwngr

[eRtwngr]

My wife left her job when we had our first child and has been home for the birth and rearing of all 7. Has it been hard at times? Do we sacrifice some things? Sure. But isn't that what marriage and family are supposed to be about in the first place?

What kind of rude, self-centered drones are we thrusting on the world? Ones whose first memories are that their parents didn't love them enough to spend time raising them.

[eRtwngr]

Enjoy!

[lonestar]

It’s easy to say when you aren’t the one at home with 7 kids all day!

[utahagen]

The other side to this story is that there are many stay-at-home mothers who are lousy mothers. I babysat for hundreds of families for twenty years and I saw how many women who were lauded for “staying home with their kids” had sitters most of the time as they took tennis lessons or did volunteer work. There were other mothers who were in fact home with their kids but screamed at them and ignored them as much as they could.

I ask only that I not have to PAY for anyone else’s daycare. Beyond that, it's none of my business.

[utahagen]

The other side to this story is that there are many stay-at-home mothers who are lousy mothers. I babysat for hundreds of families for twenty years and I saw how many women who were lauded for “staying home with their kids” had sitters most of the time as they took tennis lessons or did volunteer work. There were other mothers who were in fact home with their kids but screamed at them and ignored them as much as they could.

I ask only that I not have to PAY for anyone else’s daycare. Beyond that, it's none of my business.

[NEMDF]

Can you post the whole article on FR? Why is it an excerpt?

[nmh]

Yes, it is NOT worth chasing the dollar to have someone else “raise” your children. What's the point of having them? Buy yourself a new toy - instead! Don't have kids if you can't RAISE THEM YOURSELF. Stop being SELFISH and SELF ABSORBED and NARCISTIC. A child wants YOU; not things. It is your TIME that is priceless and it is QUANITY of time not this B.S. “quality” time. Kids don't schedule their EMOTIONAL needs to FIT your royal schedule. They only grow up once and YOU had better be there! If not, YOU will regret it. Cats In The Cradle By Harry Chappin My child arrived just the other day He came to the world in the usual way But there were planes to catch and bills to pay He learned to walk while I was away And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew He'd say "I'm gonna be like you dad You know I'm gonna be like you" And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon When you comin' home dad? I don't know when, but we'll get together then son You know we'll have a good time then My son turned ten just the other day He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play Can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok" And he walked away but his smile never dimmed And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah You know I'm gonna be like him" And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon When you comin' home son? I don't know when, but we'll get together then son You know we'll have a good time then Well, he came home from college just the other day So much like a man I just had to say "Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?" He shook his head and said with a smile "What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys See you later, can I have them please?" And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon When you comin' home son? I don't know when, but we'll get together then son You know we'll have a good time then I've long since retired, my son's moved away I called him up just the other day I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind" He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time You see my new job's a hassle and kids have the flu But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad It's been sure nice talking to you" And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me He'd grown up just like me My boy was just like me And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon When you comin' home son? I don't know when, but we'll get together then son You know we'll have a good time then http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-s5r2spPJ8g With hell care coming, parents' you'll WISH you had a relationship with your children. When you NEGLECT them, they will NEGLECT you in turn. YOU trained them to be this way through your own actions of NEGLECT. So BLAME YOURSELF.

[eRtwngr]

I am. I work from home now. I love them to death.

[Sioux-san]

It breaks my heart.........

[eRtwngr]

Use the link http://ertwngr.blogspot.com/2010/08/daycare-travesty-repeated-daily.html

[Lucky9teen]

Sounds like...


It's a shame some parents drop their kids off, so they can be selfish and lack the whole understanding of why they have kids.

I LOVE my kids and cherish EVERY moment I can spend with them. I miss them while I'm at work, and although I do admit it is nice to pass them off onto someone else for a while, I would never do it, for selfish reasons.

Don't get me wrong, my kids are great...but dang if they don't find my last nerve and jump all over it... ;)

[Peter from Rutland]

I totally agree with this. My wife stopped working when we had our son and neither one of us ever regretted it. When you factor in the tax penalty, day care costs, gas, and all the other assorted expenses we didn’t really lose much.

[achilles2000]

What you wrote can’t be said too often.

[nmh]

“Ones whose first memories are that their parents didn't love them enough to spend time raising them.”

THAT is the ugly truth.

Money is MORE important to many parents than spending TIME with their kids. Yes, these parents understand that TIME IS MONEY and more important than their own kids. The priority is clear. Money is MORE important than raising their kids and loving their kids. Is it any wonder that we see more and more headlines about biological parents murdering their own kids for MONEY or because they are tired of them?

They aren't “doing it for the kids”. No. They are chasing the dollar to better themselves and give a few crumbs to the kids to train them up to be narcissistic, materialist, cold hearted people like themselves. Material things and money do NOT replace time and love with those you love.

[eRtwngr]

If they find your last nerve, what do you think they’re doing to the daycare provider?

[nmh]

I am so sorry about the formatting.

I’ll try again.

[fwdude]

Ummm... if they're GONE all the time for the reasons you stated, they're not stay-at-home moms, by definition.

[nmh]

Yes, it is NOT worth chasing the dollar to have someone else “raise” your children. What's the point of having them? Buy yourself a new toy - instead!

Don't have kids if you can't RAISE THEM YOURSELF. Stop being SELFISH and SELF ABSORBED and NARCISTIC. A child wants YOU; not things. It is your TIME that is priceless and it is QUANITY of time not this B.S. “quality” time. Kids don't schedule their EMOTIONAL needs to FIT your royal schedule. They only grow up once and YOU had better be there! If not, YOU will regret it.

[Tatze]

Can you post the whole article on FR? Why is it an excerpt?

They want blog hits. I won't oblige, especially when trying to tar all parents who use day care as bad parents. No thanks!

[lonestar]

That's great.

BTW, do you cook or wash? (/kidding)

Remember there are those who would love to be doing what you're doing but can't. Don't judge them.

BTW, I hate day care centers!

[LongElegantLegs]

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