Yep, it's envy. This was the best book I ever read about the subject.
Posted on 03/13/2012 7:26:14 AM PDT by MNDude
I noticed how many old ‘friends’ were either pregnant or married. As I stared down my one-bedroom apartment and a life that lacked both a serious relationship and even the glimmer of a baby, I deactivated my profile once more, then proceeded to have the first big breakdown I had had in a long time. I felt completely alone. I felt abandoned by something I couldn’t define. So when I went to see my therapist the following day to be greeted by news of her pregnancy, it just seemed like an additional smack in the face.
I stared at my therapist as she glowed, like pregnant women do, and hated her with every ounce of my being. And I told her so.
I know it’s selfish to hate my therapist for her own good news. I know I’m steeped in both jealousy and fear, but that doesn’t help me shake it. The very sight of her sitting across from me with her second trimester baby belly seems like bragging; when she rubs the palm of her hand across her whole, complete stomach, my own life seems to be a smattering of fragments by comparison. Here’s a woman who helps me with my issues for 45 minutes once, sometimes twice a week, and I can’t be happy for her, and the worst part is before this, I loved her.
Honestly, I’m not sure if I can continue seeing her under these circumstances. The pain becomes more tangible for every day that I’m forced to grapple with yet another woman in my life who’s on the road to motherhood. Frankly, I don’t think I’m stable enough to accept it at this point in my life.
And did I mention she’s even having twins?
(Excerpt) Read more at blisstree.com ...
You hit the nail on the head. Like prisoners staring from behind the bars of a cold and soulless jail cell at someone happy, free, and bathed in the sunlight of a family's love ... they hate.
This woman is so emotionally hungry and self-absorbed, she’s negating almost all hope of jumping into a right track in life.
She doesn’t need a therapist, she needs a life change.
She needs to eat healthy, exercise with a group, go to a church and find solid friends there, serve others, read good stuff, wear a calm smile, dress tastefully and sharp, and be an encourager to the people in her life.
They're called head shrinks because that's mostly what they do, try to bring people with an overinflated self-esteem back to reality. Unavoidable byproducts of vanity are envy, unhappiness, and leftist thoughts. By shrinking heads they indirectly reduce painful feelings of envy, enabling people to feel happier and to mind their own business.
We need a new national self-esteem movement: to lower it. Humility is a virtue, vanity is a vice.
I KNEW it!! Just from the tone of this vapid article, I had a feeling that what the writer was feeling (and refusing to acknowledge) was her own unresolved pain at choosing to abort a baby earlier in her life. Thanks to some clues here, I found it:
Oh, and geez, posted just yesterday?!? How obtuse can you get? I’m not a therapist, but I can figure out what’s going on with this angry feminist on only one cup of coffee!
The most effective way to convince people of a lie is to start with oneself.
Wow, actually that makes lots of sense.
True story:
Once upon a time in my younger life, I INTENTIONALLY got involved with a woman like that. No BS. And I did it solely for one reason. I wanted to experience for my self just what they are like. A self inflicted life lesson of a sort.
It lasted about a month. I have since applied the ‘lessons’ learned there to great effect in any number of ways since. It was an invaluable experience. Grannie always said some people live only to serve as bad examples.
As far as people may think that women (and men) like the one in this article are insane, trust me, you have no idea, and you REALLY do NOT want to know just how insane they are. The mindset that they have is so foreign to rational thought, so far removed from the trappings of morality, decency and common sense that I now totally understand why therapists exist. It’s like the most intense psychological horror drama you can imagine x10.
The only hope these people have is to hit bottom at such incredible velocity that the very fiber of their mental being shatters into a million pieces. Only then can they hope to reassemble the pieces into what humanity considers something normal. Because humanity is the very thing their mental construct keeps locked outside.
And the nature of envy is not have what someone else has, but to destroy what they have. Instead of getting pregnant herself she wishes her therapist's babies died or were killed by abortion.
I bet if she would get out of her own head, become more involved in the community, and serving others, everything she desires would come her way,
“Excerpt it to drive the blog hits. Way to go.”
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Agree. Anyone rational person who engages in any interaction (even as little as a blog hit) with this sad, angry, narcissistic creature is doing themselves no favor.
This reminds me of a couple of ex “girlfriends” on Facebook I know. Oh, your thirty something and you realize your career isn’t “all” that and doesn’t satisfy you or make you happy? No kidding. You should have thought about that in your early and mid twenties when you didn’t want to “settle”, or work was too important for you to get too serious. Now you look at everyone with their happy family’s and kids and you say you want that. Unfortunately, any 35 or 40 year old man that’s not married, has baggage.
So good luck with that, you’ve made your choices in your life, now deal with it.
that the government school collective and the communist university campus are very effective recruiting agents and create more leftists to replace those that are dying off.
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And....so the cycle of death continues.
I call them the Death Eaters.
The conventional use of the word “wife” has made it a 4 letter word to young women aged 20-40! And they use a lot of 4 letter words. They use a lot of alcohol. I know some of these young women and the woman’s movement has done them no favors at all.
It has just taught them how to be coarse, indulgent, and belligerent. It is sad, very, very sad.
You know we’re supposed to be (rightfully) attacking her on this thread, but there are some redeeming traits in your research. Consider:
She...has a penchant for French wine. Not too hot on the French part of it, but yea, if she’s into wine, that’s a start. Particularly red wine.
Amanda currently resides with her Jack Russell. Some hope there. Most women in her shoes end up with a bunch of decrepit cats. A Jack Russell is a very cool dog.
Dear PrincessB,
Hooray for you! You didn’t take the bait the woman’s movement is pushing on young women.
How wonderful that you can celebrate your nieces and nephews. You are going to be a special treasure in their lives, regardless of what turn yours takes! PTL
this is indeed "cognitive dissonance" and conflict. Having children is normal and natural. Yet this woman has swallowed the modernist/leftist/feminist propoganda of "choosing" her fertility, which has led directly to her own infertility. Now this confusion has led to anger and rage.
As a side note, New York City is ground zero for this phenomenon.
She’s breaking the 10th commandment and she’s already broken the 6th.
interesting story, tell us more!
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