Posted on 05/12/2016 6:13:57 PM PDT by Borges
Oh, and let me follow up by saying that NO ONE gets the short end of the desirable stick like black women. I’m really saddened by what lack women go through.
Which one is she?
I disagree, sort of...
Once you realize that the returns on your virtue cannot be provided by other people in the form of "rewards", you have eliminated the distraction of seeking approval in lieu of validation. I'll provide two personal examples:
I like to occasionally bring my wife a bouquet of flowers "just because". It makes her happy. But I do it because I want to make her happy, and seeing the smile she displays validates that I can still do that after almost 30 years.
The second example is more complex. My son is mid-twenties, and likes to stop in at the bar owned by a friend a few times a week. This week, he ran into a nearly 70 year old Vietnam vet, and spent a few hours listening to the man tell his stories. As the evening wore on, the vet (who walked with a cane) got drunk, then was going to try and walk (or perhaps drive) home. It took some time, but my son persuaded the vet to accept a ride. When my son related the story to me, it validated that the mix of discipline and example my wife and I have tried to supply during his upbringing has helped to shape a young man who is a good man.
In both cases, the reward is the validation that the efforts made to do the right thing - whether easy or difficult - resulted in a positive outcome.
Applied to racial politics, this most commonly means judging an individual by their individual behavior. That means that the individual is held responsible only for what they actually do, instead of being judged solely on their belonging to a specific group.
However, ignoring valid statistical patterns based on group membership before you actually know the person you are seeing is willfully ignorant, and is self-destructive behavior. MLK wanted a society where people were judged by the content of their character. Today's so-called "social just warriors" just want a license to act out, on behalf of the demographic groups that commonly act out.
Sorry for the mini-rant, and it is just my opinion (naturally).
The objective is to make us feel guilty enough that we will be less motivated to oppose their agenda.
I don’t think we disagree. I was just pointing out that doing things for the sake of doing them - and cultivating the nature that makes the doing spontaneous and wholehearted - bring not only good results, but an inner, personal fulfillment.
-JT
Good observations, both.
LOL! Blew right past it... then just blew. I honestly thought it was satire...but no punchline materialized.
*sigh* That’s 15 minutes I’ll never get back. Ooh well! Education can be expensive.
I’m curious as to how old you are. They don’t make 25 year olds born in 1945 any more.
American (and to a lesser extent Canadian) girls have changed. Most of them are entitlement queens. That isn’t to say that the guys are much better.
The culture is headed down the tubes.
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