Posted on 03/06/2017 6:37:26 PM PST by BJ1
SALT LAKE CITY — New research debunking the “ball and chain” myth of marriage for men was released Tuesday.
According to a research brief published by the Institute of Family Studies, the idea that marriage creates more unhappiness than happiness for men just isn’t true.
Nicholas H. Wolfinger, a researcher at the University of Utah, and W. Bradford Wilcox, a researcher at the University of Virginia, say that more education is needed in order to ensure that people understand marriage and the truth behind it.
“Contrary to the notion that marriage is detrimental to men, it turns out that the benefits are substantial by every conceivable measure, including greater financial well-being, higher quality of sexual life, and significantly better physical and mental health outcomes,” wrote Wilcox and Wolfinger in “Men & Marriage: Debunking the Ball and Chain Myth.”
Married men, the research argued, are often less depressed than their bachelor counterparts.
“Marriage is broadly beneficial to men and women alike, and many of these benefits appear to be causal,” Wolfinger said. “In other words, they’re a direct benefit of marriage itself, and not simply a benefit of the fact that happier, healthier, and wealthier men are more likely to get married in the first place.”
According to Pew Research, men are more likely than women to never have been married, but marriage for both men and women have been in a steady decline since 1960.
"The science could not be clearer: on average, men enjoy more money, better sex, and better health when they are married. But of course not everyone who gets married will stay married. About 42 percent of first marriages end in divorce, and the majority of these divorces are initiated by women.10 This means that a large minority of men who marry will end up unwillingly divorced. These men often don’t realize much of a return on their investments in married life."
I'm curious what you single guys think......are the benefits of marriage worth the risk of getting divorced?
This study just seems to gloss over it divorce as ...yeah 42% of first marriages end in divorce, but the brief goes on about a number of things a guy can do to reduce his risk.....so go ahead and get married?
I think that more men would get married if the legal system wasn’t so favorable towards women in regards to marriage/children/everything.
If I were a young man (I’m not) I would be VERY wary unless the young woman were devoutly religious.
Gee, maybe God knew something after all, ya think?
The research says....lol
old men dont want to get married either!
“Gee, maybe God knew something after all, ya think?”
I fail to connect the dots. Can you give a more detailed reply?
True, but that is likely a case of having no interest in what is available to them.
Marriage is the leading cause of divorce. And men rarely win in a divorce. Actually nobody does.
One of the very worst things to happen to marriage itself and successful marriage of couples is that children are given little or no opportunity to have extensive, chaperoned cross gender relationships while they are growing up.
This should be very obvious to the Mormons, prone to larger families, that children raised as brothers and sisters find it much easier to relate to those of the other gender.
85% of women who initiate divorce are willing to make false claims of sexual abuse of the children, if it were to get them a bigger payout.
It would take a very unusual woman for me. If not deaf, blind and dumb at least dumb.
After 2 blown marriages totaling 21 years i swore I would never do it again. Then I met a woman at work that loved God and had also been unequally yoked to unbelievers. 4 years later and we are very happy still. We came together in the nick of time...she's fighting stage 3b colon cancer now. We have faith, this battle can be won.
PSA to all my FRiends here: Do not wait until age 50 for your first colonoscopy. Do it in your mid 40s.
Sex is still wonderful and exciting. But children and grandchildren are even better.
You know where they’re REALLY researching robots?
For sex.
If guys don’t like marriage NOW, just wait until sex robots are an affordable thing.
My prediction:
“REAL sex” will be strictly for making a child, not for pleasure.
That will be a demographic H-Bommb.
Every one who supported or continues to support no fault divorce brought this about.
And make no mistake, Asia went there first. Nobody in the West has any defense for having failed to oppose no fault divorce other than A. They wanted the end of traditional marriage or B. They.are.terminally stupid.
There is no third possibility. All one had to do is look at what had happened to Japan and Korea with no fault divorce.
Sadly I see pastors who still don’t understand the cause and effect here.
Horrifying divorce story I heard here on FR 2 years ago:
They decide to split up, he drives over to her house to pick up the kids for an outing with him.
Ding dong, ding dong, hmmm...that’s weird, she won’t answer the front door.
Sound of approaching sirens...sirens getting closer:
Suddenly from the 2nd story a window opens and something falls, clattering on the porch in front of him.
He bends over, picks it up, it’s a huge KNIFE..!
Super weird..!
Sirens round the corner, 3 cops cars skid to a stop in front of him...!
Cops jump out, take out their guns and at that EXACT instant she open the front door, screaming:
“He screamed he was going to kill me..!!!”
And all that non-sense DID STICK during the divorce and she got full custody.
>>Sex is still wonderful and exciting. But children and grandchildren are even better.<<
I always run into the mentality that children are a burden. They are so expensive. Maybe have one or two at the most.
And in regards to the cost benefit analysis for young men, divorce makes staying in your child’s life as a man very hard. Maybe impossible if the ex wife is evil.
Would I invest my hard-earned money in the expectation that I would end up losing everything nearly half the time?
I followed this line of reasoning when I was in my prime marriageable years, back in the 80s and 90s.
I was cautious about who I dated. In the final analysis I never dated any female who I thought was worth the risk.
I’m nearly 60 now, and I have to say that loneliness is a small price to pay for never having been dragged into court and skinned alive financially.
Over the years, I’ve developed a rather stern worldview, and few things matter to me more than never being taken advantage of by anyone. I’d be a hard man indeed, if not for the fact that I put equal emphasis on never taking advantage of others.
The ultimate failure of the sexual revolution lies in the fact that other people are not your playthings. Even if they want to degrade themselves in such fashion, you still have your own honor to preserve.
Most human relationships are transactional. If you’re a man, the only real love you’re likely to experience is from your parents or siblings. I was fortunate that my father was the most fundamentally decent person I’ve ever know, or am likely to.
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