Posted on 09/18/2017 6:32:10 PM PDT by Morgana
FULL TITLE: 'My heart is in pieces': Father's heartbreak after three bullies call his seven-year-old special needs son a 'monster' at school
A father was left heartbroken after bullies called his seven-year-old son a 'monster' at school.
Dan Bezzant broke down crying after hearing what happened to his son, Jackson, on Thursday.
The Idaho dad said he received a phone call from his ex-wife explaining that Jackson was eating when three older boys started bullying him.
'They were saying he looked like a monster and kept calling him names,' Bezzant told EastIdahoNews.com.
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Yes, schools pretend to be but often are not capable of properly caring for these kids (especially when you consider the >10% absenteeism rate among teachers).
I remember a kid named Chuck who had this condition.We were 12 and he was going through a door at school and this little bitch(teresa) kicked a door open that smashed into him making him drop his thermos and breaking it.Chuck went to pieces over the thermos being broken.I felt so bad for him I gave him mine as they were the same.The look on his face with the tears is etched in my mind till this day.I always stood up for those that were bullied.Later in school I was a bullys’ worst nightmare in high school. I like to think I made a difference.
Hi Morgana. I wonder if the school has a Best Buddy program (both my daughters did it). Essentially, it hand selects the nicer kids in 4th and 5th grades to volunteer in the special needs classes during recess. Both my daughters got so much out of the program and learned patience with respect to those with challenges. The reason I think it is successful is that the kids socialize; thus, it becomes “normal”. Both were even invited and attended birthday parties. Okay... the downside. Daughter #1 did have a discussion with her principal after guilt talking one of the bully boys.... which didn’t work. Thus, her reaction was to ridicule his hair line and asked if his “daddy” knew where he lived. (read between the lines here). The principal gave her no punishment and I rewarded her with a trip to IHOP and a manicure. :)
“Do that in a public school and the manly adult is arrested.
Besides women have done their best to get men out of all levels of teaching. Its so frigging PC feminist in these places you can’t teach with any authority. Without fear of being fired and sued.”
Females have always rules the lower grades ie grade or elementary schools. This tradition goes back to the Puritans when they had “Dame Schools” taught by only women then the boys went on to what was public school and that was taught by a man. Seems not much has changed as in Jr and Sr high you do start to see more male teachers and principals. Would appear our society prefers it this way. Perhaps as they are still young they want a female as “mommy” in the schools (don’t tell them that though the word “mommy” seems like a bad word anymore)
The dad has some problems, too. One is emotional maturity and another is that he has his kid in public school. If he actually cared about the boy he would home school him.
Heck, ‘monster’ is tame when I was growing up.
Now for the other side of the coin so to speak. Kids with special needs including disabilities really do need special education schools where they can receive all the help they need and it makes a very huge difference in many lives.
I had and still have poor motor coordination due to Inner Ear Damage from likely birth or sinus allergies. I'm also functionally single eyed vision. I spent my 7th and 8th grade in a special education school which was equipped with a fully equipped and staffed Physical Therapy, Occupational Therapy, Speech Therapy Departments, and even counselors who helped the kids reach their maximum potential. They handled everything from Polio, MD, Autism, deafness, Open Spine, legally blind, they handled it all and helped the kids. The bullying as they call it didn't happen there because all kids had problems to overcome.
This was a pooled several county funded school and had a shorter teaching and operational schedule due to transportation issues among other things. I credit it with giving me the adaptability so when I was 19 I enlisted in the Navy and later the Army Guards. One student became a highway patrolman. I had nearly 20 productive years in the workforce I would not have possibly had. The teachers had a gift to help. Mainstreaming has been a huge mistake often turning valuable education time into a daycare to warehouse kids who can not adapt to regular classroom environment.
Most important lesson I learned there was look beyond the persons disability into their character and the person they are. Later when I was 28 my girlfriend when we were dating became a quadriplegic in a matter of minutes. I could accept it and my feeling for her were not changed. We had a good almost 30 year marriage afterward till her body gave out and GOD called her home.
His options as far as controlling other parents kids especially preteen ones would be very limited. Educating parents is a logical response. The parents of the kids doing this likely have no idea the kid exist. His response is putting out some public shaming sorely lacking these days. Age of the offending kids makes a difference also. When I was about 12 a 16 year old hit me I had walked 2 miles to a store to wait for my dad to drive by on his way home from work for a ride back home. He saw I was upset and I told him. The 16 year old was in a car in the drivers seat. Thus legally assumed to be an adult. He asked why did you hit him? The 16 year old said because I don't like him. Dad said I don't like you either and punched him. The 16 yr olds dad was a passenger and had Polio. The guy never hit me again.
Men crying is not a show of weakness. The shortest verse in The Bible is "Jesus Wept". I saw my dad do it more times than I can remember when life events came crashing down on him and that man carried a heavy load. I'm proud to be his son who also has shed countless tears when sometimes life sends you to your knees in a breaking point. Dad also had to get me back in school after three suspensions for fighting. I'd get hit, I'd hit back, I got three days suspension. That was in high school and after I had the ability to swing and connect a punch.
I made another post before this one as to what I think is the best solution and it comes from experience.
“As a Dad I wouldn’t be crying——I’d be in jail right now”
And THAT’s what we need. Dads who are willing to protect their families. Good on ya.
“I was writing about the fathers reaction to just break down and cry, rather than to ACT LIKE A MAN.”
Amen. I’ve told my boys 3 things:
Love God. Lead your family. Be a man.
The best thing you can teach your child is how to handle problems.
I agree with you whole-heartedly. That’s part of my admonition to “be a man”. I’ve taught them that you face your problems and deal with them* - mostly by relying on the “Love God” part. They have learned that very well.
*That’s the basis for my screen name.
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