Posted on 10/16/2018 12:27:13 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
Women are confusing creatures. We know.
The list of what women find attractive in men, and what women don’t find attractive, is long and at times, contradictory.
You might think that figuring them out is impossible…
…and while there isn’t a secret recipe for understanding every woman, there are a few things that almost all women are drawn to.
To break the code, and teach you how to attract women, I’m going to tell you 7 things that women find highly attractive in men and why they do.
Here are 7 things that women find attractive and love in no particular order.
I polled a good handful of my closest girl friends to get their input about what they find attractive…
…and leadership and initiative was the first quality that the majority of them named.
Women look for a guy who will go after what he wants (this will come back into play with quality #5) but is also humble and can admit when he makes a mistake.
Guys who lead the way and have a plan make women feel cared for and protected.
Women also love men who are self-starters; who make a name for themselves or are changing something in the world because of a dream they have.
Now:
One of the most attractive things a man can have is the ability to follow-through on what he says he’ll do.
This is especially important when it comes to making plans with a woman.
If a man says he’ll call, and he doesn’t…
…he’s losing points with that woman already… Even if he “forgot.”
Nothing is more unattractive than a man who is all talk, no action. Your words hold value to women so it’s important to not say things if you have no intention of backing them up.
Be a leader and take initiative
Have you ever seen a comedian’s wife?
She’s usually a babe, right? Guys like Will Ferrell.. Jack Black… Jason Sudeikis… they all have absolutely stunning wives.
Now:
I bet these guys have fantastic personalities and are all-around nice guys…
…but I also bet a big reason these ladies were originally drawn to these men was because of their sense of humor.
Knowing how to attract women is as simple as being able to make her laugh.
Now:
We’re all born with different senses of humor and with different things that we find funny. You aren’t always going to make every woman in the room laugh… and that’s okay!
There will be a woman out there whose sense of humor you will connect with yours, so don’t be afraid to show your sense of humor
Oh, and as an bonus tip:
Don’t take yourself so seriously. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself.
If you spill ketchup on your shirt, make a little joke about it, laugh at yourself and soon she’ll be giggling too.
A man with a passion for life and a drive to pursue his dreams is extremely attractive to us, women.
You might think women find men in bands attractive because of the “bad boy” persona, but in reality, it’s about their passion for music and their ambition to achieve their goals.
We like men who are athletes or hard-working businessmen for the same reason:
Passion and ambition are instant turn-on’s.
You don’t need to be a famous rock god or a multi-million-dollar lawyer to attract women, either. Choose a hobby, career, or dream that gets you excited and pursue it.
Even if you’re a beginner or are just entering a new career field, the passion you have for that thing will shine through and instantly attract women.
Think about it:
As a man, don’t you like a woman who has interests she’s passionate about and goals she’s working towards?
Of course you do!
It’s the same for us, women.
Seeing a man who’s pursuing his dreams wholeheartedly allows us to see just how wholeheartedly he would pursue other things – like a girl he’s interested in, for example.
Be passionate about what you do
First impressions are everything and one of the things women find attractive is a man who can dress well.
Being well-dressed and well-groomed isn’t just about looking your best:
It’s about feeling your best, too.
To women, a man who is well-groomed and well-dressed takes pride in his appearance and takes himself seriously.
You don’t have to have a particular style (like outdoorsy or urban) to attract women. You don’t even have to change a ton about your own style.
You just need to look clean and comfortable.
For example:
I love a man with good shoes, a plaid or flannel button-down, and a good-fitting pair of dark wash jeans.
My best friend prefers a more hipster look, with her man in tight skinny jeans and his shirt buttoned all the way to the top.
There really is someone for everyone, and a sense of style isn’t about adopting a particular style of dress…
…it’s more about taking the time to look good and feel good about what you are wearing.
And please:
Don’t wear anything that has a ridiculous catchphrase on it.
Five years ago your frat brother thought your “Female Body Inspector” t-shirt was hilarious.
But believe me, women aren’t amused by it. In fact, we generally roll our eyes at “that guy”.
Oh, and bad body odor is a huge turn off!
Have your own sense of style
This is a tricky one.
There’s a very fine line between confidence and arrogance.
Confidence is one of the top things women find attractive in men, but arrogance is one of the biggest turnoffs.
To come across confident, don’t be afraid to share your accomplishments, but stop just short of bragging.
Men who’re confident are more than happy to tell a woman about their recent promotion, but will quickly change the topic to ask their lady a question.
This shows us that you aren’t just interested in talking about yourself all night but you are confident in knowing who you are.
A man who’s confident is sexy to women. A man who can’t shut up about his high school track record, on the other hand, is not.
Be confident, not arrogant
Being a good listener is a big deal to women because they want to feel heard, valued and respected.
A man who doesn’t have good listening skills can come off as cold, disrespectful and uncaring.
Ask questions about what she’s saying. Not only does asking questions show that you’re actively listening, but it allows your brain to better store the information she’s sharing.
Storing that information, and bringing it back up later, is also an instant way to up your attractiveness to a woman you’re interested in.
I knew my boyfriend was a keeper when he would ask me questions about specific students I was teaching that I had told him stories about.
Not only did he remember the names of the students, but he began remembering their personalities as well.
It was a signal that he valued what I was saying and what I did for a living just as much as he valued me.
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason
You know what serves as a great bait for women?
Pets.
A man with a dog is instantly more attractive to women. Women are attracted to a man with a pet because it shows that he’s kind and empathetic to the needs of another living creature.
If you can take care of a dog, the odds significantly increase that you can take care of her. That might sound crazy, but it is something women subconsciously take note of.
Having a pet also shows a serious level of commitment and responsibility to a potential girlfriend.
So, what happens if you aren’t a pet guy?
Don’t sweat it – this isn’t a deal-breaker! What women are really looking for is a guy who’s kind and compassionate, which can be shown in a numerous ways.
For example:
I love a man who holds doors for people (both women and men). To me, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about the needs of others, and that’s an attractive trait.
Bonus tip:
Women pay attention to how men treat two sets of people:
If a man is disrespectful to either one of these sets of people, it’s an immediate turn-off.
Man and his best friend
Yes, women might be confusing to men…
But when you begin to understand what women find attractive in men – you’ll know exactly how to attract them
I’ve shed some light on what ladies find most attractive in the men they meet, so next time you’re out on the town trying to find a suitable girl, remember:
-Be confident
-Show your sense of humor
-Take initiative
-Listen intently
-Dress well
-Share your passions
-Be compassionate
If you’re conscious of these 7 things, you’ll have no trouble finding a great girl to spend time with.
He smokes a pipe or a cigar sometimes, like I sometimes smoke a cigarette-we also sometimes drink wine with dinner because we want to-is that a problem?
yours is a GREAT LIST...so true!!
A great first date for a guy to establish his bonafides is to take a gal to a shooting range and demonstrate gun competency.
Some girls give me money
Some girls buy me clothes
Some girls give me jewelry
That I never thought I’d own
Some girls give me diamonds
Some girls, heart attacks
Some girls I give all my bread to
I don’t ever want it back
Some girls give me jewelry
Others buy me clothes
Some girls give me children
I never asked them for
So give me all your money
Give me all your gold
I’ll buy you a house at Zuma beach
I’ll give you half of what I own
Some girls take my money
Some girls take my clothes
Some girls get the shirt off my back
And leave me with a lethal dose
Yeah French girls they want Cartier
Italian girls want cars
American girls want everything in the world
You can possibly imagine
English girls they’re so prissy
I can’t stand them on the telephone
Sometimes I take the receiver off the hook
I don’t want them to ever call at all
White girls they’re pretty funny
Sometimes they drive me mad
Black girls just wanna get fucked all night
I just don’t have that much jam
Chinese girls are so gentle
They’re really such a tease
You never know quite what they’re cookin’
Inside those silky sleeves
Give me all your money
Give me all your gold
I’ll buy you a house at Zuma beach
I’ll give you half of what I own
Yeah baby why don’t you please come home
Some girls they’re so pure
Some girls so corrupt
Some girls give me children
I only made love to her once
Give me half your money
Give me half your car
Give me half of everything
I’ll make you world’s biggest star
So gimme all your money
Give me all your gold
Let’s go back to Zuma beach
I’ll give you half of everything I own
Shrewd.
LOL!!!
Yes!
If she promises that she’s good, then who am I to disagree?
THIS APPEARED ON CRAIG’S LIST
What am I doing wrong?
Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful
(spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy.
I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at
least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind
that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think
I’m overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could
you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around
200 - 250. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won’t get
me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married
to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as
I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I
get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars,
restaurants, gyms
-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my
feelings
-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east
side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have
nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead
gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What’s the story
there?
- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment
banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they
hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for
MARRIAGE ONLY
Please hold your insults - I’m putting myself out there in an honest
way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front
about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t
able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a
nice home and hearth.
* it’s NOT ok to contact this poster with services or
other commercial interests
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THE ANSWER
Dear Pers-431649184:
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully
about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I’m not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your
bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here’s how I
see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a
cr@ppy business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you
suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring
my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my
money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely
that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t
be getting any more beautiful!
So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning
asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation
accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty
hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in
earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy
and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense
to “buy you” (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case
you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were
to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s
as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So,
I wonder why a girl as “articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful”
as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to
believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K
hasn’t found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then
we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.
With all that said, I must say you’re going about it the right way.
Classic “pump and dump.”
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of
lease, let me know.
Great list.
You are dead on right that. A woman doesn’t want a dependent wuss.
If we want to feel needed, our kids take care of that.
We DON’T want another baby.
I like 6 out of 7. I don’t care about a style. Maybe his style is just comfortable clean clothing. Good enough for me.
To those who asked about money: it’s not the amount, it’s how they deal with money. Having ambition and passion and responsibility means they will take care of what they need to, and they will work hard to get where they need to. Worst thing in the world: they shirk all financial responsibility and use up your money. Ask me how I know that is a big turn off.
Believe me, KC, this is what my dad tried to tell me. It isn’t true. It is not always just as easy to fall in love with a rich guy. Money isn’t everything.
Don’t kid yourself. Men fall in love, and sometimes harder than women fall. Women cry, talk it over with their friends, and move on. Men get crushed. Men really do fall in love.
Not to women worth having.
We see past all that surface crapola.
I did NOT need to see that.
Awesome! And I love to bake and cook too so there still are some of us out there. Good on you for 3rd time’s a charm, I’ll Wish on your post for the same luck.
I do not accept this propaganda piece.
All of those applied to me in my youth, but the Church Girls wanted the Bad Boys and Success Objects.
I was passionate about serving the Lord, and about other things, but I was not passionate about making money for its own sake. And I was never, ever a Bad Boy - never a Prodigal Son who needed to be redeemed by a so-called Good Woman’s love.
Any treatise that does not honestly address the carnal female attractions to debauchery and cupidity is disingenuous.
As an astute writer once wrote:
“Don’t listen to what women say; watch what women do.”
If it is him, no not a chance. :)
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