By the way I don't want to post and run but I'm not sure what's going to happen. I promise to respond to everyone as soon as I can thank you very much in advance
We’re you drinking when you posted this?
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Make the best at rehab and beat this demon first.
Before you do anything, you’d better go cold turkey and stop drinking. Not a damn thing is going to get better or be solved until you do that first.
You acknowledge your alcoholism, but then at the same time you point your fingers. I suspect that possibly you are being hit as you provoke your husband and act irrationally and violent with him. Many men are accused of physical violence when their wives go bat shit crazy and flail away...the man trying to restrain the out of control woman is then the “abuser”.
Anyways, STOP drinking or die.
Oh, and pray to God and beg him for help and guidance. But the first step is YOU.
Get your money and get out. Let hubby & son fend for themselves. You need to look after yourself, and that includes getting yourself sober. I know it is easier said then done. Some space between you, your husband and son should help though.
Prayers for you.
My brother went through re-hab. It was the start of a greatly improved life, and a better marriage. I hope the same for you. I will pray.
Detox yourself and you will feel so much better. Your husband will love you for that.
Call the police and get some enforced separation until you get to rehab. Your drinking does NOT give him a free pass to abuse you. Please accept that you are a child of God and, with His help, you will be free. I will pray for you tonight.
Throw out all the booze. Anything with Alcohol in it you need to quit using. Use non-alcoholic stuff, ect.
If you aren’t going to Church, start. Now. Also, Pray every day. Make the time for it. Invite your husband to pray with you.
Don’t ever buy alcohol again. Instead, make plans for rental movie night, or some other entertainment activity that you plan for but don’t go drinking. Your friends need to support you in giving up booze.
Don’t ever try anything with alcohol in it again. If your husband beats you again, call the cops.
If He is beating you, you may have to consider more drastic actions. It is not OK for a husband to hit his spouse in anger or for the wife to hit her husband in anger.
First the drinking - has got to stop. Try AA - I went that route and have been sober 25 years. It could work for you, too.
You should not be hit - for ANY reason. Maybe a girl-friend's house or a women's shelter - just for some short-term relief (and safety).
Ever think about church? A good, Bible-based one might provide some help, too.
In the mean-time, you need prayer - lots of it. I'll be praying for you, and you might try it yourself - even if you don't believe. Try it anyway.
Keep us up on how it's going. As long as you're alive, you've got a chance.
God help and keep you.
Please see a Teen Challenge (it’s for adults) near you.
https://www.teenchallenge.ca/contact-us/centre-locations
Deal with the alcohol issue first before you make any other major decisions. In addition to professional rehab therapy work on your spiritual condition. God wants to help you if you’ll let him. My prayers are with you.
Call 911 and tell them of the abuse. Ask the cops to take you to the nearest hospital for detox and you should be ready for rehab Wednesday. Pray. This is very serious life or death advice. I di high conflict family law for over 35 years and have had to sit through detox and intervention with friends and close relatives more times than I want to think about. Call 911.
Prayers for you. Go to rehab and when you come out don’t go back to your abuser. God bless you!
Ignore all the idiots on this thread who are telling you to go cold turkey. Have the police take you to a hospital for detox now.
I do this for a living.
Detox and Rehab now.
Domestic Violence information next.
I assure you moving will not work until you address your own issues, Geographic cures are short lasting because the issues that you have follow you until you finish them.
One of them sounds like the grief you have for your departed father.
This is not a short path but it is a fruitful one.
Get ye to AA and find a sponsor. Go every day for at least ninety days.
Shut your mouth and listen while there.
Blessing upon you.
You can stay ay my place. But, BYOB.
Best we can do for u from afar —- do get off the booze! Your health and well- bring is Job One. You can’t expect to dolce everything at once - especially problems involving other people.But you can start solving everything by fixing your own self — get off the damned booze. It weakens you and can destroy people’s entire lives. So if the rehab is any good - be happy you can do it! Second point, you May have a problem or two, but you don’t deserve to be beaten up by a man. I can understand a guy can get frustrated but it’s still inexcusable to beat up a woman imho. Two issues with that —- 1/ if your personal safety is in danger, it has to stop for sure - or you have to absent yourself from that danger at least until he appears to have gotten himself under control. So if your rehab is done place you’re going away to - that’s a good thing maybe. Husband needs to get himself repaired just like you are gonna do for yourself in dropping the booze. He MUST stop beating on you! Probably some professional help can assist him, please look around and see what’s available for him. He might say NO at first but many such men do understand inside themselves that this needs correcting - and he might eventually go for the help. Meanwhile keep in mind that you don’t deserve to be beaten up and obviously try to avoid such incidents as much as possible. Best,
Best we can do for u from afar —- do get off the booze! Your health and well- bring is Job One. You can’t expect to dolce everything at once - especially problems involving other people.But you can start solving everything by fixing your own self — get off the damned booze. It weakens you and can destroy people’s entire lives. So if the rehab is any good - be happy you can do it! Second point, you May have a problem or two, but you don’t deserve to be beaten up by a man. I can understand a guy can get frustrated but it’s still inexcusable to beat up a woman imho. Two issues with that —- 1/ if your personal safety is in danger, it has to stop for sure - or you have to absent yourself from that danger at least until he appears to have gotten himself under control. So if your rehab is done place you’re going away to - that’s a good thing maybe. Husband needs to get himself repaired just like you are gonna do for yourself in dropping the booze. He MUST stop beating on you! Probably some professional help can assist him, please look around and see what’s available for him. He might say NO at first but many such men do understand inside themselves that this needs correcting - and he might eventually go for the help. Meanwhile keep in mind that you don’t deserve to be beaten up and obviously try to avoid such incidents as much as possible. Best,