By George, I think you’ve got it!
Reality is, I think, encoded in traditional social systems and attitudes. Girls/women require extra protection in these matters, because they are much more vulnerable in many ways.
Tradition is a true guide, liberal idealism isn’t. Again, see Edmund Burke.
You remind me of Fauci when he wanted to “stop the virus.” It was all science, no culture. You are dealing with this from an evolutionary standpoint with no regard for the rules and roles of our society. If you think laws should treat minor boys and girls differently when it comes to rape laws because their brains are wired differently, that’s on you. Reminds me of the slippery slope being used by trans activists that will eventually lead to lowering the age of consent. Are you in favor of lowering the age of consent for boys? Maybe 13 or 15 for boys?
There’s a double standard for apples and oranges too, but some people don’t do nuance. IOW, sauce for the goose is not sauce for the gander. Unless you’re a chef.