Freeper needs legal advice - daughter planning to marry muslim she met on the internet (update 322)

[6ppc]

My daughter will turn 21 next week. She is living at home and working.

Two days ago she informed us she had met a man online who lives in the UK and they had developed a serious relationship. He was planning to come to visit and she was informing us and asking if we would agree to meet him. This man is of Indian nationality and is a muslim in school in England. His parents have been living in Saudi Arabia for over 20 years.

We told her this was dangerous and a very bad idea. I tried to convince her to give the idea up and she said she would think about it.

Tonight we found out she is has come up with a plan to go to England and marry him. She says she is of legal age, has thought it through and is determined to do this.

I've now changed tactics and am working on getting him to come over here. I talked to him on the phone tonight and told him that I was unwilling to consider this unless he moved to the US and got a job here.

My daughter has only had one boyfriend in her life and is very much a loner. She has few friends and never goes out, so I'm sure this is a reaction to being lonely.

I need to do some quick intervention and stop this. I need advice.

1) Since she is over 18 (21 next week) is there any kind of legal action I can take to prevent her from leaving the country?

2) How can I do a background check on this guy?

This is my worst nightmare and I don't know what to do.

[Dallas59]

Do anything you can...you'll never see her again if she goes.
God what a horror.

[6ppc]

I'm trying to come up with some ideas. I plan to talk to some LEOs I know to see if they can provide any help. Not sure what else to do.

[rocksblues]

Other than locking her in the basement you are screwed!

[xJones]

Ok, desperate situations call for desperate questions. Is your daughter fat and plain-looking?

That type usually goes looking for Muslim men because they are the world's best at sweet-talking. After the marriage her life will be hell, but she doesn't know that yet.

[konaice]

Make her read http://www.faithfreedom.org/faq.htm
And everything else published on that site.

Don't let her go to Saudi Arabia.
She is mere property there.
India is ok, they have laws, but in Saudi she is nothing but cattle no matter how sweet and promisng this guy is.

[Dallas59]

Other than lock her up...call her crazy, find something to prevent her from going. Contact the FBI...tell them you suspect this guy of being connected with Terror..I don't know.

[6ppc]

Ok, desperate situations call for desperate questions. Is your daughter fat and plain-looking?

No. She not drop dead gorgeous but quite cute...she should have no problem finding a local guy.

[finnman69]

Has she even met him in person yet? You need to get her friends to talk some sense into her to sloooooowwwww things down.

[6ppc]

Thanks for the link. I'll make her read it.

[Calpernia]

Zap that computer!

Does she have credit cards?

Cancel them behind her back.

Does she have a cell phone?

Soak the battery in water while she sleeps.

This is much more serious than she will understand.

Ever see that movie, "Not without my daughter"

GET IT!!! Make her watch it.

He is charming her and sweeping her off her feet. You have a major battle.

[bannie]

I was going to be silly and tell you to lobotomize her...then I saw the seriousness of the problem. I am terribly sorry.

Have her watch, Not Without My Daughter.

[Dallas59]

You could accuse your daughter of being tied to terror...they may freeze her ability to get on a plane travel overseas. I know that sounds rough, but I would do it to save my kid.

[mlmr]

I think that you are wise to pressure him to come here. Internet beauties often wear thin in person.

[6ppc]

Has she even met him in person yet?

No...that's what's really crazy. She doesn't realize how insane this is. I'm going to talk to the only real friend she has and see if he will talk some sense into her...that's one of the few ideas I have right now.

[HoustonCurmudgeon]

Do you have the money to have him checked out? If so go to Drudge and connect to all the UK papers and find an investigator in the UK. If those sections are not on line go to the biggest bookstore in your area and get the Sunday UK papers. If all that fails, FReepmail me as I have two niece's with in-laws in Bath and London and I'll find you one.

[Velveeta]

Ping.
Any advice for this mom?

[Gunrunner2]

1) Does she have a Passport? If not, she must apply and you might want to drop a note in the ear of State that they best be careful processing her application as she is intending to meet a muslum from Saudi. This guy needs a visa to visit the states. Pass his details to state to flag him to make sure he applies for the proper visa, and that state should be careful issuing a visa as this guy appears to be intent upon using your daughter to enter the states and overstay (illegally).
2) Get this guys full name and date of birth to the Homeland Security guys. I am confident his name probably is on some list by now. . .name, but maybe not him,. . .but enough to confuse the issue so your daughter may pause.
3) Get him to come to the US and drop a dime to the FBI. Express your concern he is attempting to enter the US and STAY (possibly by using your daughter. . .a "sleeper" terrorist, as it were because of his Saudi ties.
4) Do a web search to see if he is anywhere on the net.
5) Find out exactly where he says he attends university. Call the school. Explain to them the situation (daughter "met" him on the net. He is talking marriage. Alleges he goes to school there. . .see what the university might share.
6) When he arrives have the local police act on a tip that he might be into drugs and they need to use the dogs for a sniff test. If the dogs get a hit then your daughter may pause.
This is just a start.
GET HIM TO THE STATES.

[Jeff Head]

Have you raised your daughter as a Christian? Do you have a pastor who is close to your family she can speak with?

Do you have other close friends she respects who can talk with her and influence her?

Does she understand the Muslim faith and how it portrays and treats women? It is not likely that she has a good understanding of this and the potential consequences should she move out of country with this individual, particularly back to India, or to Saudi Arabia.

I would continue to talk straight to the muslim suitor, indicating that you and your spouse will not bless, honor, or sanction this union. Let him know that you are committed to your daughter's welfare and will do all in your power to ensure that she is not taken for granted, taken advantage of, or in any way limited in her freedom of choice. Do this to see what his reaction is, if, and how he tries to reassure you. God bless you in your efforts. Our prayers here in Idaho will be on your behalf.

[JSteff]

If nothing else it may delay things enough to give her time to think.